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Originally Posted by CKit,Dec 28 2007, 09:17 AM
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Originally Posted by CKit,Dec 27 2007, 11:46 AM
Marriage is the best thing ever. I can't even imagine what things would be like without her. She's my best friend and partner.
I think there's something special about someone you go through your formative years with. When we met, we were both "nothing." We're only where we are because of each other.
Think about the people who mean most to you in your life. They are the ones who were there for you and with you during the most difficult times. If you've gotten through all the difficult times already, I'm not sure the bonding with a spouse is as intense.
But that's just my $0.02.
I think there's something special about someone you go through your formative years with. When we met, we were both "nothing." We're only where we are because of each other.
Think about the people who mean most to you in your life. They are the ones who were there for you and with you during the most difficult times. If you've gotten through all the difficult times already, I'm not sure the bonding with a spouse is as intense.
But that's just my $0.02.
Ive only been married 2.5 yrs but ive loved every day of it. my wife is such a great support, friend and i can imagine my life without her in it everyday.
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Originally Posted by The Raptor,Dec 28 2007, 08:26 AM
35 years here. My wife's sister (a real piece of work) married a guy. They had two kids. Then she caught him in an affair and they got a divorce. Then he married the lady he had the affair with. Then she caught him in an affair and they got a divorce. Then he married the lady he had the second affair with. Then they got a divorce and he remarried his second wife. Then he went to Las Vegas on business, picked up a woman in a bar, and took her back to his hotel room. When he woke up, he was in his hotel bed, hooked up to an IV, with a kidney surgically removed. At the emergency room, they said it was a very professional job.
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Originally Posted by 8D_In_Trunk,Dec 28 2007, 01:53 AM
Marriage is great so long as the woman you're marrying has a healthy view of the institution in these modern days. Most IMHO don't.
These days it seems like there are no lines, no roles, no clear positions in marriages. The woman does what a man used to do, and vice versa, but then they mix it up a little bit and just muddy the situation. I'm not saying the woman has to stay at home and take care of babies and cook meals every day (though it's nice if you find one that's HAPPY to do it!), just that some definition to the marriage helps immensely. Too often I see a marriage where both want (and have) to be the same thing and that will never work, in my opinion. The man needs a defined role, as does the woman, and both need a willing attitude to help (but not take over) each other's role as needed.
Partnership, not competition, with a healthy dose of patience and consideration to make it through the inevitable misunderstandings.
I think I'd go stir-fry crazy if I lost my wife now. She's a friend, not just a spouse, and she's the hardest working and most loyal person I know. The longer we're married, the more I miss her when I'm on business trips and such. That's a good thing!
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