seriously now, who ya marryin the broad or her mommy and daddy?

 

i am in a situation where my parents don't approve my gf. just because she is different nationality. it's freaking frustrating. she is probably the best girl i will ever find. and i have been with her long long time and we understand each other really well and everything just clicks.

i told my parents i am getting married and i expect them to respect my decision and support it.

i also have a cousin who went through same thing as i am going through. his parents said no so he broke up with his gf and had arrangement marriage which didn't work out. he recently got married with parents approval but he is already into his late 30's if not early 40's. and to top it off his wife passed away while giving birth.

marriage is what you want not what someone else want. i am ready to get married and show my parents that i made the right decision.

 

Looking from the inside I'd say absolutely..

Looking from the outside and I'd say never in a million years. Girls are crazy enough as it is and something like that might plant a strange ****ed up illogical reason to start disliking you.

 

yes. that kinda stuff is important to me. I like having her folks on my side as well as hers

 

Well basically we are an interracial couple and her mom is HIGHLY racist. Her mom would rather have her be with a loser who was the same race as her than to be w/ a succesful person of another race (100% srs).

All of her siblings love me and are in support of the relationship(they are 31,30,28,20 yrs old) and are angry w/ their mom about it and are openly defiant to their moms actions/opinions. Looking into the future I am having a hardtime thinking I can have children w/ this gurl b/c I refuse to have them looked down upon b/c of some racist witch.

I can put up w/ racism but I refuse to have my children be outcasted/neglected by a person who is supposed to care for them. The girl is awesome, if I didn't want to be a parent there wouldn't be an issue but I refuse to have my offspring put up with this bs.

Theres nothing I can do to win her mom over b/c I cannot change the color of my skin. Aside from my race, there is nothing her mom can say negatively about me. I'm caught between the proverbial rock and hard place. My mind tells me to leave this wench and plunder other booty but my conscious says to stay and fight.

Been together for 2 yrs. We're 26/22.

 

Well...Michael Jackson did it....



jp dude...sucks that you and the girl are having to go through it, how does she feel about the whole situation? Have you talked to her about how the mom would be involved (or not involved) with future children (hypothetically)?

 

I knew someone was gonna mention MJ... srsly I knew that lol

Well she hates her mom now b/c of how ridiculous she is. It wasn't really a talk, it was more me saying xyz and her agreeing. But at "family" events there would be almost no way to get around it. For sure they won't be going over to grandmas randomly. One other thing she wanted to do which was her family tradition was to have the childrens middle name be her maiden name. FOOK NO.... thats for damn sure not happening after her family's racist ways. I'll call it quits right now if she really thinks thats happening.

 

I'd keep dating her for now if you really like her, or leave her if you want to move on to different ladies... but I wouldn't factor marriage, kids, etc into that decision. You're 26 she's 22... you're both still quite young... and you met her when she was 20, since you say this is 2 years now of dating? You're old enough to probably know this already, but people change a lot in their early 20s. She might be a totally different person in a couple more years.

Ignoring the age thing and actually answering your question, I would still say stick it out if you care about her. You can find ways to ignore the racist mother.

 

What tuna said. Just don't EVER tell her that since she's 22 she's still learning a lot.

Never... ever... say that to a woman, no matter how true it is. They know everything even when they don't. FYI

I wouldn't be worried about getting hitched after 2 years, that's where I'm at with the GF, it's going to take five years for me to even consider it.

 

Oh to be clear, I'm not thinking of marrying this girl right now. I've just been thinking that I'm 26 and if I cannot see this working then there is no point in wasting my time.

Yes I also know that early 20's is not a stable range. She wanted to move in this summer and I was very against it and held my ground and she had to get a place by herself. B/c I was 22 not too long ago I know how they think so most of the time I disregard her reasoning on anything as it is usually baseless bs.

Its pretty hard to ignore the racist mother, TRUST ME. I've done everything a man can to ignore it but its overwhelming at times. Pretty hard to ignore a small asian lady screaming her lungs out at the mere sight of you b/c your dating her daughter in front of other people.