Married guys. How did you know when?
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1. Pic of ring
2. DO NOT, DO NOT, DO NOT write her parents a letter. You seem old-fashioned, as am I. Be a man and ask them to their face. Particularly her father. Be prepared to answer any question they have for you, about you, and about your relationship with their daughter.
3. You can't determine if she is the one for you based on your feelings. Feelings change based on circumstance. If you get married and then she decides to take literally everything you own, sell it, and buy herself a handmade Prada purse with matching socks and knit sweater, I doubt the same butterflies will still be in your stomach. There is a difference between being in love with someone and truly loving somebody. It is the hardest thing you can do, but when you do it, it is the greatest thing you can do, and your life will be blessed.
P.S. I am also curious how old you both are. Good Luck!!!
2. DO NOT, DO NOT, DO NOT write her parents a letter. You seem old-fashioned, as am I. Be a man and ask them to their face. Particularly her father. Be prepared to answer any question they have for you, about you, and about your relationship with their daughter.
3. You can't determine if she is the one for you based on your feelings. Feelings change based on circumstance. If you get married and then she decides to take literally everything you own, sell it, and buy herself a handmade Prada purse with matching socks and knit sweater, I doubt the same butterflies will still be in your stomach. There is a difference between being in love with someone and truly loving somebody. It is the hardest thing you can do, but when you do it, it is the greatest thing you can do, and your life will be blessed.
P.S. I am also curious how old you both are. Good Luck!!!
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Yea how old are you guys? And it's hard to contain yourself when you have the ring... I had it for a month! I always say though you should live with the person before... Only so that you can see how they really are!
I once dated a girl that was about an hour away from me and since she had no car I had to make the trek out to get her, one time I had to go into work early and she said she would take the bus and train home.... I left and when I came home after work I found a wet towel from her having a shower on the bed... A WET TOWEL.... I soon broke up with her. I am picky and a neat freak lol.
I lived with my wife for 2 yrs before I asked the question!
I once dated a girl that was about an hour away from me and since she had no car I had to make the trek out to get her, one time I had to go into work early and she said she would take the bus and train home.... I left and when I came home after work I found a wet towel from her having a shower on the bed... A WET TOWEL.... I soon broke up with her. I am picky and a neat freak lol.
I lived with my wife for 2 yrs before I asked the question!
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Originally Posted by stauren1203,Dec 30 2010, 08:54 AM
1. Pic of ring
2. DO NOT, DO NOT, DO NOT write her parents a letter. You seem old-fashioned, as am I. Be a man and ask them to their face. Particularly her father. Be prepared to answer any question they have for you, about you, and about your relationship with their daughter.
3. You can't determine if she is the one for you based on your feelings. Feelings change based on circumstance. If you get married and then she decides to take literally everything you own, sell it, and buy herself a handmade Prada purse with matching socks and knit sweater, I doubt the same butterflies will still be in your stomach. There is a difference between being in love with someone and truly loving somebody. It is the hardest thing you can do, but when you do it, it is the greatest thing you can do, and your life will be blessed.
P.S. I am also curious how old you both are. Good Luck!!!
2. DO NOT, DO NOT, DO NOT write her parents a letter. You seem old-fashioned, as am I. Be a man and ask them to their face. Particularly her father. Be prepared to answer any question they have for you, about you, and about your relationship with their daughter.
3. You can't determine if she is the one for you based on your feelings. Feelings change based on circumstance. If you get married and then she decides to take literally everything you own, sell it, and buy herself a handmade Prada purse with matching socks and knit sweater, I doubt the same butterflies will still be in your stomach. There is a difference between being in love with someone and truly loving somebody. It is the hardest thing you can do, but when you do it, it is the greatest thing you can do, and your life will be blessed.
P.S. I am also curious how old you both are. Good Luck!!!
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Originally Posted by s2kcolin,Dec 30 2010, 10:04 AM
Yea how old are you guys? And it's hard to contain yourself when you have the ring... I had it for a month! I always say though you should live with the person before... Only so that you can see how they really are!
I once dated a girl that was about an hour away from me and since she had no car I had to make the trek out to get her, one time I had to go into work early and she said she would take the bus and train home.... I left and when I came home after work I found a wet towel from her having a shower on the bed... A WET TOWEL.... I soon broke up with her. I am picky and a neat freak lol.
I once dated a girl that was about an hour away from me and since she had no car I had to make the trek out to get her, one time I had to go into work early and she said she would take the bus and train home.... I left and when I came home after work I found a wet towel from her having a shower on the bed... A WET TOWEL.... I soon broke up with her. I am picky and a neat freak lol.
I'm going to ask again op, HOW OLD ARE THE TWO OF YOU? This is very very key to the situation.
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Originally Posted by stauren1203,Dec 30 2010, 05:54 AM
1. Pic of ring
2. DO NOT, DO NOT, DO NOT write her parents a letter. You seem old-fashioned, as am I. Be a man and ask them to their face. Particularly her father. Be prepared to answer any question they have for you, about you, and about your relationship with their daughter.
3. You can't determine if she is the one for you based on your feelings. Feelings change based on circumstance. If you get married and then she decides to take literally everything you own, sell it, and buy herself a handmade Prada purse with matching socks and knit sweater, I doubt the same butterflies will still be in your stomach. There is a difference between being in love with someone and truly loving somebody. It is the hardest thing you can do, but when you do it, it is the greatest thing you can do, and your life will be blessed.
P.S. I am also curious how old you both are. Good Luck!!!
2. DO NOT, DO NOT, DO NOT write her parents a letter. You seem old-fashioned, as am I. Be a man and ask them to their face. Particularly her father. Be prepared to answer any question they have for you, about you, and about your relationship with their daughter.
3. You can't determine if she is the one for you based on your feelings. Feelings change based on circumstance. If you get married and then she decides to take literally everything you own, sell it, and buy herself a handmade Prada purse with matching socks and knit sweater, I doubt the same butterflies will still be in your stomach. There is a difference between being in love with someone and truly loving somebody. It is the hardest thing you can do, but when you do it, it is the greatest thing you can do, and your life will be blessed.
P.S. I am also curious how old you both are. Good Luck!!!
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Originally Posted by s2kcolin,Dec 30 2010, 06:04 AM
Yea how old are you guys? And it's hard to contain yourself when you have the ring... I had it for a month! I always say though you should live with the person before... Only so that you can see how they really are!
I once dated a girl that was about an hour away from me and since she had no car I had to make the trek out to get her, one time I had to go into work early and she said she would take the bus and train home.... I left and when I came home after work I found a wet towel from her having a shower on the bed... A WET TOWEL.... I soon broke up with her. I am picky and a neat freak lol.
I lived with my wife for 2 yrs before I asked the question!
I once dated a girl that was about an hour away from me and since she had no car I had to make the trek out to get her, one time I had to go into work early and she said she would take the bus and train home.... I left and when I came home after work I found a wet towel from her having a shower on the bed... A WET TOWEL.... I soon broke up with her. I am picky and a neat freak lol.
I lived with my wife for 2 yrs before I asked the question!
Also, for the record I don't claim to have all of the answers by any stretch of the imagination but I think that a lot of the advice I'm hearing based somewhat on the assumption that I have not really thought this through, not that I'm be critical and I certainly appreciate the feedback.
But believe me, I have thought this through and the bottom line is that I am perfectly content with the way our relationship is working right now. In other words, I don't feel like I HAVE to marry her or things will deteriorate. I don't feel like she's getting ants in the pants about not being married yet. To be completely frank, I never thought I'd find someone I want to marry but now that I have I am ready to start a new chapter of my life with someone that I love more than myself.
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Originally Posted by RedCelica,Dec 30 2010, 06:15 AM
Disclaimer for #2...if her father asks if ya'll are sleeping together, LIE