It's up to the girl to decide whether she has an abortion or not. Legally the guy has no say in the matter. If she keeps the baby that you have to pay for it for the next 18 years. If she is pregnant then you're screwed.

 

In my list of instructions, I should've mentioned that if she chooses to keep the baby, call a lawyer pronto.

 

That's not the way you're supposed to treat a girl. Your actions have consequences and quite frankly by age 25 you should know where babies come from. If you decided to sleep with her without protection, then be ready to accept the consequences, don't just look for the easiest way out for you.


When you get into a car accident, do you leave the scene as fast as possible or do you wait for the police to get there? It's the same concept.

Your actions have consequences. If you can't accept that, then you should reconsider your actions.

 

She's 28, and just as responsible and culpable as the wang-bearer.

He's 25 and already this derelict? This sounds like the kind of responsible guy EVERY woman wants around. Sure, let the two of them have each other.

Did I, or did I not, state that having sex without a condom is signing her up to get pregnant?

Once again, given that she's 28, and he's 25:

1. It takes two to tango.

2. Do you really want him involved, given his sterling track record?

The guy needs to throw the "Hail Mary" play, or get ready to call a lawyer, and definitely start using protection ALL the time.

 

Nice edit, BTW.

In my actions, did I not show due diligence in solving the problem?

 

 

I understand that it takes 2 to tango and they're equally responsible for the situation. The part that I do have a problem with is making a bunch of empty promises of a "normal" family later down the line, and then when she agrees simply dumping her. That's just not right. If you've already got yourself into this situation, be a man. You should look into giving the child up for adoption before pressuring her to have an abortion. In a lot of states you can give up a new-born with no questions asked.

 

They're equally responsible for the situation, yet having/keeping the child is SOLELY HER CHOICE, not yours.

Empty promises? She agreed to take her pills, and yet, she "accidentally" gets pregnant. Let's face it, the lying coach on the morality train left the station long before you pull the "Hail Mary" play.

Be a man? Once again, moot. Keeping the child is SOLELY HER CHOICE, not yours.

Pressuring? Since when was a gun put to her head? On the contrary, as soon as a girl states she's pregnant, there's a gun to YOUR head to pay out for 18 years. I'm not above lying and coercion to avoid paying out thousands upon thousands of dollars for a choice that was not mine to make.

As per adoption and/or leaving the child NQA at a hospital, the child is now there, and the two parties have now left the child poorly set up for success.

Keeping the child? I'd rather not see yet another child raised by two regretful, divorced, and unhappy parents. I taught enough of them.

For the record:

1. I personally don't jump without a parachute.

2. If she's had an abortion before, I'd want to damn well know the circumstances (in this case we don't know them). While not a deal-breaker, "accidental" (in this day and age) pregancies are a BIG red flag.

 

My wife experienced none of that. Everyone is different.

 

Friend, you need to educate yourself. Your questions sound like they are coming from a 14-year-old child. There is no shame in not knowing. The shame is remaining ignorant. At 25 you need to stop your inevitable path to the Jerry Springer Show.