hey guys i have a problem it has been bothering me for awhile. me and my ex broke up like a year ago but we still talk on and off even though we havent seen each other since. reason we broke up was she wanted to finish college and she was simply just too busy for me. so what am i supposed to do? just wait for her? obviously not! so i met this new girl and let me tell you she is too good to be true! ive known her for a few months now but never have told my ex about her. i still talk to my ex but i never contact her. we only talk but she goes out of my way to call her. ive known ex since 1999 and frankly im still in love with her and she still talks about being with me in the future and gettin married like we planned and what not. but i dont know, i dont wanna be lead on.

now with this new girl....i dont think its fair to her either. also with my ex its a long distance relationship. but this new girl is great! all my life i dreamed about havin a girl whos close to me, who i can see whenever i want and what not. shes mature, funny, smart, beautiful everything i want in a girl! like i said shes too good to be true but its true! shes simply amazing! heres the problem though. i just cant seem to stop thinkin about my ex im not going to lie. i am still in love with her but like i said its not fair to this new girl. shes head over heels for me!! but this new girl has cared for me more in the 3 months ive known her than my ex ever has....but thats also because we live 2 hours away from one another...but what should i do?? oh yeah and now my ex is talkin about gettin back with me one day and what not. i know all you guys will probably tell me **** the ex and stick with the new chick but i just cant seem to get over her. please help!

 

In all honesty, forget about the ex and go full on with this new girl (if she's as awesome as you say). Never pass up the opportunity to meet and go out with someone special, because you never know if you might regret it later on. Say your ex is just telling you that because she hasn't found anyone worth dating yet?

I don't know the whole situation, but I think you'd be cheating yourself if you didn't give this new girl a shot. You sound like you're crazy about her anyway so why not?!

 

Break off contact with the ex. I had a similar situation. I went out with a girl for three years, then we broke up.

As soon as I met someone else, she wanted me back. We talked and met again a few times, but my new girl was just so much better for me.

After a few months of that, I stopped talking to the ex at all. I ended up marrying my new girlfriend (7 years ago now) and boy am I glad I stuck with her and didn't go back to the ex

 

Based on what you say, it sounds like the ex is keeping you around for security. What sane person would expect to break up and be put on hold only to get back together later when the other person has more free time. Sounds like a bucket full of BS to me!

You have to make a decision. I don't think there's anything wrong with staying in touch with an ex but not like this.

 

yea thats a reason why i stop talkin to all my ex's. i feel its better to just move on and leave it at that. then when you meet someone new theres no guilty feelings. but in your situation i would say to forget the EX and go with this new girl. you say shes great. you should see where it goes.

 

So far everyone's saying the right thing. The reason you can't let go of your ex is because you are keeping in touch with her. You have an idea in your head that maybe there's a chance you guys will get back together, so you are holding on to that small chance. You should forget about her and go with the new girl.

 

I don't know how old you are, but here's a little bit of advice I learned a long time ago:

After you break up with someone, you two cannot be "friends" until both of you are perfectly happy with just being friends. You still love your ex, so you're not ready to just be friends. Cut it off with her. Completely. You broke up for a reason, don't forget it.

That all being said, if you totally cut off communications with the Ex, and still want her, then you shouldn't be mixing it up with this new girl.

Also, stop saying "whatnot."

 

According to your (the OP's) profile, you're 24.

The ex is an ex for a reason. You sound excited about the new girl, but frankly, at 24, I wouldn't sweat too much for her (the new girl) either.

 

sometimes its hard to stop listening to your heart and listen to your brain.

 

From my experience, S2000 owners don't have relationship problems. We're too carefree and good looking to be worrying about holding onto someone.