Defend it all you want, they are still paying you an allowance, only now it's called salary, and they are giving you a place to stay, also could be considered allowance. I used to give my son an allowance when he was little, he's 27 now, has a daughter, working his butt off for someone else and paying rent. If he were working for me and living in a place supplied be me he would be subject to my rules, and he would be treated like a kid.

 

I think you're delusional, you're still in your parent's nest. Even though you might be better than kids who completely live off their parent's money, don't confuse that as being self-reliant, and independent.

 

christ al, that's the dumbest thing i've heard.

respect stands on it's own merit.....and it's earned not given.

your son is the same man....instead of NOT paying rent by living with you, he's paying rent to someone else....and instead of working for you, he's working for someone else.

the only reason you won't treat him like a kid is because he's at a distance from you - that's retarded.

maybe it's a white thing....

 

Huh?

 

i am 37 years old and to this day, my old man will not ever just throw me the keys to his car..... like if we are visiting and my wife takes ours.... I have never driven any of his cars EVER without him......

I have driven for the last 18-20 years without any accidents but somehow I am going to total his car in a 2 minute drive to get a newspaper.

I don't plan to treat my kids like that...hopefully my kids will go to the track at age 16 and learn to drive properly at a fairly early age.

 

I am going to agree with dkhl and THEOLDMAN. No offense to you but I going to voice my opinion about what I've observed personally.

Working for your parents is working for your parents. I think your paycheck, if you get one instead of cash, is composed of your salary and "allowance." I have several friends who feels that working for their parents is real work. Their parents are constantly calling them and asking them when they're going to return home when we're out past 10. Their parents pay them good money and they flaunt it like they are successful. Come on if any of these guys didn't depend on their parents for a stream of income, it would be difficult for them to even find a job at BestBuy or Walmart. They play it off as if they have some sort of career but come on who are they kidding.

As long as money is still coming from you parents, you're still under the invisible wing of theirs. They will not treat you like an adult until you break off on your own and make your own money. Once that happens your parents will realize that you are independent, you'll be liberated from their constant nagging. You will probably earn the respect of your independent friends also, which may be lacking in your life.

 

i feel for the op. parents suck in so many ways. they prove over and over that they were never truly prepared, mentally, to have children. i'd love to hear a story of a healthy, functional family. it would be like a breath of fresh air in this thread.

 

^ www.thebradybunch.com

 

I second that...wth are you talking about?

 

Don't worry about it, he knows me personnally and it's not an attack.
You're right though and it may be a cultural thing more than anything else.