She is 12. I was in the army at the time of my divorce, so I thought it was better for her to be with her mom and move home close to familly.

Dispite the outward tone of this post, I actually have a pretty good relationship with my ex. I just happen to think that she should have to accout for the money I give her...it is supposed to be for the kid. But, in Ga a mother is not required to no matter how much it is.

 

Sondra is right. More and more women are paying for child support. This is largely a reflection of the fact that the playing field for salaries between men and women is starting to level out a little.

Regardless of whether the mother or father has to pay child support, the chances are that the person with custody of the child is actually paying out more in the long run anyway in terms of money and time committment.

 

[QUOTE]Originally posted by johnyboy32
[B]She is 12.

 

I can guarantee you what the state awards for child support is not enough being a child support kid myself. My parents divorced when I was young and my Mom had to work 5 jobs just to put food on the table and keep a roof over our heads. To this day I don't know how she raised three kids on $300 every month from child support, I know she went without a lot. Granted I think that if you do voluntarily give money for your kid then that is wonderful, I applaud you, but there are MANY fathers/mothers out there who don't. If you want her to account for the money you give her, start buying your daughter things she needs instead of giving your ex the money. That way you are sure to get the money to your daughter. If you make more then you should help support your daughter. I can understand your frustration but just don't let your ex screwing you get in the way of taking care of your daughter. Seems you are doing a good job so far, keep it up, you would be surprised at what your daughter knows that you think she doesn't. Kids in divorces are smarter than parents think, we hear things too. Good luck.

 

BTW, how good can a relationship be if she is taking you to court?
She can't be all that good of a person, if she can't justify her spending of the child support.
It's either that or you aren't telling the whole truth, buddy.
Either way, I think those ancient laws are due for renovation.

 

My mother raised me without getting a penny from my father.
I had absolutely no toy growing up, but she put the food on the table on a teacher's salary. If a parent is commited to raise a child, it's his or her responsibility. Laws and legal mumble jumble aside, I believe child support to be bonuses and absolutely unnecessary.
In fact, I believe it to be degrading. So what if the other half isn't being responsible. You are still a parent who brought the child to this world. If you were able to raise the child alone, then you aren't entitled to bring a baby to this world.
I despite opportunist who try to take easy way out.

 

I totally agree and that is why my mom never took my dad back to court for more money. Child support was just a stipulation in the divorce decree. More parents need to take responisbility for their kids instead of heading to court everytime they are fighting about something. And too many parents these days use their kids as pawns in order to get something from the other party.

 

I agree with you all on one thing...this is a touchy subject. I brought it up here because I know that most every one in this forum makes enough that a "minimum" to support a child is not an issue.

This depends on how much the father actually makes. I allready pay more than 3X that, and if she were "without" anything I would make sure she had it. And that is exactly my point in all this...I go out of my way to make sure my kid has what she needs. Some dads don't so we all get treated like we won't. I think I deserve the opportunity to do the right thing...not to be forced to pay every extra cent I have to my ex just to be sure.

After looking through all of this, I geuss my point boils down to semantics. The money goes to the same place anyway...but I would like my daughter to know where some of her "stuff" came from. I want her to grow up knowing that I did my part as best I could.

Anyway, sorry if I offended anyone. A few too many glasses of wine last night and my tact went right out the door.

 

i thought that sex between couples ended at the divorce trial, ergo, the question is out of order. "who is getting screwed by their x?"

 

It can be worse. I did not get custody of my son but after six months she dropped him off for a