I need your advice about a woman I met. I'll try to keep the story short.

* I bumped into this woman last August. Found we have a lot in common and went out about three times and the third time she told me " I should have told you this before, I am dating somone else, he's in a another country and he'll be here soon, I am really sorry"

* The guy came and stayed for 3 weeks and also asked her to marry him. She said she needs more time to decide.

* We stayed in touch all this time. Sometimes I'd call her and If not she'd call me. We even went out and had lunch, dinner few times.

* They met a couple of more times, she was seriously thinking about getting married to him but about three weeks ago the guy left her. She became very sick but is ok now.

My question(s) for all of you;
I still like her a lot . Is it too soon to approach her?
If not how long in general one has to wait?


Basically I have no clue what to do
Help a brother out.

Gaus.

PS: She loves the S. She made me put the top down in sweltering heat, in cold,
pretty much all the time. Liked the sound of 9k RPM inside tunnels too.

 

if you haven't slept with her yet, don't make a move.

if you slept with her, move on.

Either way, you are in a lose-lose situation. Go find someone better.

 

Is the other guy a MMA fighter?

 

LOL. Dont think so. I really dont know. Maybe, any thing is possible.
I remember that story. But this girl doesn't have a sister anyway.

I am honestly seeking some wisdom. Yeah this is a car forum I know, but among all that PIIHBs and "pics or ban" I've
seen some good advice given here before. Was counting on that.

 

aghh jeez id say its too soon, back off and be there for her as a friend but dont be there for her at the snap of her fingers. Keep it cool and DONT BE PUSHY act like you dont care about her like that and shell prob come around.

She prob was keeping you around just in case, your prob fun to be with but something is missing. Dont make yourself available to her all the time.

 

you're either

in the friend zone (screwed)
or
the 'backup plan' in which case she's already made up her mind.

just play it cool like you've been doing. don't be too pushy or aggressive.

 

Yes and Yes. Personally, I never believe a relationship or dating is worth it unless the chick is really into you and bends over backwards for you.

 

DR TROY you better keep you mouth shut before you mess this guy up


gaus: it depends how she feels if she's over it, then make a move
if not? well thats self explanatory

the best advice i can give you: feel it out, if she's into you she'll fall back on you, but try NOT to be a fall back crutch

 

dude... you're definantly the back up plan.

If she was REALLY into you, then she would've called it off with the other guy.

Also, if she had no problem still hanging out with you while she thinking about getting married to some other guy, you're either in the friend zone, OR if you two do end up being together, who's to say she won't turn around and do the same thing to you that she did to this other guy, and have lunch/dinner with yet another guy.

Just forget about her... just my .02.

 

She gets credit for telling you about the other guy, although she needs more time to get him out of her system. I'd keep my distance for awhile. See her as friends but nothing more. Otherwise, you'll end up being the rebound guy - not the position you want. Good luck!