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Originally Posted by TAMTANIUM,Mar 2 2009, 12:06 PM
how old are you guys? over 26 or under? if under 26 then forget it...if over more likely she'll take it serious.
and please dont try to sleep with her...
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Originally Posted by heathas2k,Mar 2 2009, 07:14 AM
OR if you two do end up being together, who's to say she won't turn around and do the same thing to you that she did to this other guy, and have lunch/dinner with yet another guy.
Just forget about her... just my .02.
Just forget about her... just my .02.
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Have you ever actually seen this guy? or any evidence of his existence? He possibly doesnt exist and she was making an excuse it sounds aloooot like thats the case.
my line of thought.......
Hey im seeing you but btw I have a boyfriend in another country ..
ause:.. 1.)wha? how often does that legitemately happen? ..:unpause:.. and im not gonna be able to see you anymore my bad ..ause:.. 2.)if you wanted to distance yourself from a girl all the sudden isnt this something you would say? Hell ive said stupider. 3.)refer to #1 again...:unpause:..
(after phone calls) so yea this guy is magically going to marry me all the sudden..ause:..4.)No. just no. the unlikleyness is just piling up here. ..:unpause:..
yea whoa so this guy just like left me after all that who knew ..ause:.. 5.)do i even have to say anything here ..:unpause:..
(and last but not least, and my favorite)
so yea now he left me but whoa im sooo sick all of the sudden i cant even see you. ...:bigpause:..6.)if you liked a girl, even a little, would you pull all that? Please tell me im at wrong or at least not a little bit right about all of this? youve been through exotic lover, engagement, and extreme illness, do the math...:unpause:..
thats all. god bless.
my line of thought.......
Hey im seeing you but btw I have a boyfriend in another country ..
ause:.. 1.)wha? how often does that legitemately happen? ..:unpause:.. and im not gonna be able to see you anymore my bad ..ause:.. 2.)if you wanted to distance yourself from a girl all the sudden isnt this something you would say? Hell ive said stupider. 3.)refer to #1 again...:unpause:.. (after phone calls) so yea this guy is magically going to marry me all the sudden..
ause:..4.)No. just no. the unlikleyness is just piling up here. ..:unpause:.. yea whoa so this guy just like left me after all that who knew ..
ause:.. 5.)do i even have to say anything here ..:unpause:.. (and last but not least, and my favorite)
so yea now he left me but whoa im sooo sick all of the sudden i cant even see you. ...:bigpause:..6.)if you liked a girl, even a little, would you pull all that? Please tell me im at wrong or at least not a little bit right about all of this? youve been through exotic lover, engagement, and extreme illness, do the math...:unpause:..
thats all. god bless.
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Originally Posted by gaus,Mar 2 2009, 05:43 AM
I need your advice about a woman I met. I'll try to keep the story short.
* I bumped into this woman last August. Found we have a lot in common and went out about three times and the third time she told me " I should have told you this before, I am dating somone else, he's in a another country and he'll be here soon, I am really sorry"
* The guy came and stayed for 3 weeks and also asked her to marry him. She said she needs more time to decide.
* We stayed in touch all this time. Sometimes I'd call her and If not she'd call me. We even went out and had lunch, dinner few times.
* They met a couple of more times, she was seriously thinking about getting married to him but about three weeks ago the guy left her. She became very sick but is ok now.
My question(s) for all of you;
I still like her a lot
. Is it too soon to approach her?
If not how long in general one has to wait?
Basically I have no clue what to do
Help a brother out.
Gaus.
PS: She loves the S. She made me put the top down in sweltering heat, in cold,
pretty much all the time. Liked the sound of 9k RPM inside tunnels too.
* I bumped into this woman last August. Found we have a lot in common and went out about three times and the third time she told me " I should have told you this before, I am dating somone else, he's in a another country and he'll be here soon, I am really sorry"
* The guy came and stayed for 3 weeks and also asked her to marry him. She said she needs more time to decide.
* We stayed in touch all this time. Sometimes I'd call her and If not she'd call me. We even went out and had lunch, dinner few times.
* They met a couple of more times, she was seriously thinking about getting married to him but about three weeks ago the guy left her. She became very sick but is ok now.
My question(s) for all of you;
I still like her a lot
. Is it too soon to approach her?If not how long in general one has to wait?
Basically I have no clue what to do
Help a brother out.
Gaus.
PS: She loves the S. She made me put the top down in sweltering heat, in cold,
pretty much all the time. Liked the sound of 9k RPM inside tunnels too.
Regardless, if she was seriously considering marrying this man but it ended, she will need time to heal. You may be in "the friend zone" but that doesn't mean it's permanent. If you're looking for something that could potentially serious, you obviously don't want to be a rebound. Don't push her, but let her know you enjoy spending time with her...Assuming she has a certain amount of emotional maturity, she'll respect you for respecting her and where she's at - whether or not a romantic relationship comes out of it.
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3 dates and you are in love? That is not love my friend...that is lust. Drop this bitch like a bad habit. There are plenty of fish in the sea. Don't get played like a fool. You won't remember her name in 2 months...trust me.