Ahhh, the age old question of "which is the best religion".
If you decide to change your religion for her then grab both cheeks and hang on! It's gonna be a rough ride because that isn't the only thing she's going to force you to change. It's only the beginning. Abandon your personal beliefs in God to "prove" that you love her? I wouldn't stain my soul like that just to show her how easy you are to manipulate. Don't think for a second that she's asking this for your benefit. It's a control issue. Always invest in your self respect on major issues like this. Besides, she's probably going to dump you in the end anyway. How will you feel about yourself when that happens?

 

She's not a hypocrite to pursue what she believes in even though she became more engaged in it after the two of you started dating.

It's a mistake to enter any relationship without knowing where you stand with God and where your gf/bf stands with Him. IMO it's better to 'draw back' from this... you'll find that if you're not on the same page with this, you're not going to be very happy together for long...

Jewel

 

a pic of this girl will help us provide you with better advice...

btw, you say she NOW wants to take the religion more seriously. does that mean that you guys have been having sex all this time, but now that she plans on taking it more serious, you guys will no longer have sex??

 

I wouldn't do it. If you give in on something this major to her, then this is only the beginning, trust me. Soon she'll be saying shit like this: "You changed your religion for me, I don't see why you can't sell the S2000 for this Minivan." If she gives you an ultimatum, show her the door.

 

If you are converting into a religion for any reason other than for your own personal maturity/fulfillment/enlightenment, you're doing it for the wrong reason.

Just ask yourself if you would take the same actions if you were not in the situation you are in now with your significant other.

 

I agree with the first statement but not the second. How is it hypocritical for a person to stick with their beliefs over their personal feelings? To me, that's the opposite of hypocritical - it's proving that you DO believe what you say you believe as opposed to just using beliefs for an excuse for certain things. Just about every religion in the world advocates not having a relationship (much less a marriage) outside of that religion. It's for a reason - it doesn't generally work (and it absolutely introduces unneeded friction).

In short, a person that takes their beliefs over personal love is the ultimate believer - they put their belief over their desire, which is (in my opinion), the truest test of a person's committment to what they profess to believe. Taking desire over dedication is hypocrisy...not the other way around.

 

what i'm saying is, she bent the "rules" getting into this,,,,why change sh|t up now?

i swear religious zealots never cease to amaze me,,,,,catholic, mormon, baptist, satanists,,,,,

 

You know the difference between right and wrong? How? Based on what? Federal and state law? Sunday school? Mommy spanking you?

I can just about guarantee that the majority of your ideas about "right" and "wrong" are based on some religion. You're religious and you didn't know it!

I'm a born again Christian - I don't maintain my beliefs because of an "I'm going to hell" burden if I do otherwise. Hard to explain outside of experiencing it, but let me ask you this: is a marriage based on the fear of what will happen if they don't marry or is it based on love, trust and respect? I submit that it is the latter, which is exactly how I view my walk with God. It's not a compulsion (of my own), but rather a desire. It's freedom, not bondage.

 

Good point, though at least she's making it "right" now by clarifying her stand. I'm not going to jump on her for making a mistake - I've done the same - but I concede your point.

What exactly is it about religious "zealots" that amazes you? What would you consider a "zealot"? Someone that attends church regularly, pays their tithes, and lives according to the Bible? Someone that puts God first? Someone that does nothing "bad"? Just curious here...

 

How can you be in love with somebody who has such a different view of life? Are you really in love? How well do you know her? What's special about her compared to some other girl out there?