yes s2ki this is a girl or relationship question, sorry for taking up valuable interweb space on this stupid question. So i have been going out with my gf for about 2 months now, since the beginning of the relationship she decided she was going to give me her facebook info (email address and password) i told her i did not want to know her password or personal information but she insisted on giving them to me. she writes them down for me and tells me i can go into her fb at any time i want, i really do not like fb (imho i think its a huge waste of time, but hey im a member of s2ki lol) i deleted mine about 4 months ago and never looked back.

on sunday we were at starbucks and she decides to go on facebook on my computer. for some reason her account stayed logged in my computer, i noticed this on tuesday that i was still logged in to her fb account i decide to look around not much of anything interesting so i close the web page (didnt log off though). i go back in today and i am logged off apparently fb logged me off automatically. i decide to put in her password and log in, but encounter a problem as i do it tells me that the password i put in is incorrect. so apparently she changed it, and im thinking why the change of heart now? when she gave me her pw she said you can log in whenever you want i have nothing to hide, what is she trying to hide by changing her password?

p.s; thank you suckerberg (s was on purpose) for your contribution.

 

Maybe she decided you're right, and she shouldn't do that? Maybe you have something to worry about however we have a bigger issue at hand, and I'm throwing the co-dependance red flag card at the attempt...


Though you're better off confronting her about it. No relationship is worthwhile that you can't assert yourself in

 

Maybe she doesn't want her last BF logging in...

 

am sorry co-dependance red flag card? please elaborate. and yes am definitely confronting her about it, as soon as she gets off work and calls me its going to be the first thing on my agenda to talk to her about. i am dying for an explanation at this point to be honest.

 

she told me she hasnt given anyone else her password except me and ofcourse herself.

 

Just confront her about it, tell her since you don't have a facebook you wanted to get on hers and check some stuff out or whatever. Just see what she says and go from there, but don't dwell on it too much who knows why girls do what they do.

 

definitely confronting her on this, not going to be an asshole about it (atleast i'll try not to). and yea when you think you have them figured out, they throw a wild card at cha' what can you do you cant live with them but you cant live without em either.

this is weird too because i remember yesterday at work she was in a particularly bitchy mood, never seen her like that. i asked her what was wrong later on in the day and she says its just stress from work...

 

Here's the deal insofar as I can see it: she has no boundaries. She was asking you to look, rifle-through, and fundamentally violate her privacy as a sign of affection. This is f@#ked up thinking. Brother Whiteflash was dead on with the codependency call.

Confront her. Moreover, be unapologetic about it. Tell her that every contact you have with people, including your dating situation, hinges upon trust and self-initiated transparency. Rest assured, she'll think you're an asshole because you didn't do what she wanted you to do. However, she also won't stop thinking about you, and in a week, she might respect your opinion (but she won't tell you about it).

I'd put money she either is, has, or is about to, pull some crazy shit to try and make you jealous. When that happens, call her on it, and dump her ass. Then, if you know what's good for you (and your dick), f@#k her best friend. She wants drama, and she can go beg elsewhere.

The situation is yours to control if you get there first, and are unafraid of dumping her.

 

well guys i just finished talking to her right now, i confronter her about it. she said that fb contacted her and urged her to change her password, because apparently someone in NY was trying to get into her fb account. so she changed or slightly modified her password its still the same but it just has an extra letter. she said she was going to tell me about this, but she forgot to. fb contacted her yesterday. now i dont know how often random people try to break into someone elses fb account for no apparent reason but i gave her the benefit of the doubt and believed her.

btw whats up with the codependency? am i the codependent one since i want to log into her fb or is she the codependent one for giving me her fb info? dumbfounded...

 

She is. Dude you were given the key to pandoras box... who wouldn't eventually dive in?

I'll let unkie fill in what I missed