Hello everyone, I am new posting on the board but have been a reader for a while. I will give all of you guys/chicks some idea of me, before I ask my question.

Male, 24, single, still live with parents, been an avid car guy for years. If money didnt go in the bank, it went into my toy (1991 CRX). Blew motor up in CRX, now have a camry. No real reason to put money in camry, all goes in bank for saving.

I am a conservative person, dont do a lot. I go out with friends on the weekends every once in a while, bars mainly. Never talk to the chicks, just there to hang out with friends.

I take very good care of my body, workout almost 4 times a week, if not defintely 3 days. Eat well, take vitamins, all that jive. 6' 0", 185lbs, Near six pack status

I havent taken many risks at all in my life. Always preparing for something. I realize it is good, but bad at my age.

Good: Preparing for the future

Bad: Not enjoying my youth

I was a car salesman at a Hyundai dealership, sold units went down, I had to get laid off, being the lowest on the salesman pole.

After being laid off for a while, I still have no idea what I would like to do with myself. I am considoring going to school, but not sure exactly what for(fitness trainer?) I have no idea.

I have lived my life to some sort of enjoyment, but I feel most of the time that I am missing out on something, but not sure exactly what that is.

I would like to take risks and move out of mom and pops house, get an apartmant or something, and more than that, get out of this town. I live in a small town with some people but everyone just wants to settle down and get married at age 21. I had that mentality and after a massive breakup, knew I wasnt ready for something like that. To much life to live. at this age, I dont want that kind of life.

Not really sure of what my real question is, I just know it entails of moving out and away. Getting into the world and not even thinking twice about it. Just doing instead of thinking or wishing. Not being bothered by "What if's?"

All I do know, is I want my house and my s2k. Which I dont have either of those things, hence why I want them !

I have always been very secure in everything I do. Decisions I make, always thought through, precise. Great thing, but isnt making mistakes part of youth?

I realize this post is jumbled, but you guys get the picture. I want to jump,. but not sure where I will land, and not having that security bothers me. But at the same time it intrigues me.

Just unsure of what I want to do with my life and any thoughts of wisdom someone may have, hit me with, I am open ears.

Thanks for your time and contribution,
Matt

 

life is a gamble...take risks when your young..you'll enjoy life more.



peace

 

first of all, welcome to the board.

2nd, props for being honest with your life/thoughts/worries. first hurdle to progress.

what's more important than money in life is PURPOSE. i wouldn't focus on getting a bunch of money, house or a s2k. none will make your life meaningful. i'd suggest enjoying your young, single status. give yourself a pat on the back for not getting married early, as i think it is one of the worst moves a woman or man can make. seriously, try travelling. it sounds cliche, but it really clarifies your vision on what's important to you and what's not. live in a different place, go with a friend if you can. the united states has a way of distorting our life's vision.

when you find what's important to you, spend your energy chasing that. and when you do have some money, the s2k will be one of the best material objects you'll ever buy.

hope that helps.

 

if you are unhappy with your current situation, then, yes, you need a change. but don't make drastic changes in your life and take risks just for the sake of taking risks and making changes. whatever changes and risks you take, you still need to have a purpose and goal for making those changes and taking those risks. for example, choosing to take the risk of moving to los angeles because you want to experience metropolitan life and explore the potential of a career in the entertainment industy is a good move, but deciding to move to los angeles just because you want to get out of your hometown will most likely end up being an unproductive and disappointing move, because you will have no sense of goal and direction to guide you once you are there. you are 24 and are not that young anymore. unless you have lots of money saved up, then your first and foremost priority will be getting a job to make ends meet no matter where you end up. if that's the case, then you probably won't have much time or money to explore and take advantage of your new enviroment. the bottom line is that, for adults, taking risks is a luxury. unless you have lots of money saved up or have parents or others financially support you, then the risks you undertake needs to be calculated risks and not just random and wreckless risks.

 

I am in a similar position, except Im only 19. You are very lucky lviing with your parents until he age of 24. I have a job during the day working for a corporation, and have school at night. I go to the gym 5-6days a week, and by the end of the week I am wasted.

I want to take a risk, and get a s2000 to show that I earned the car, but it will take alot of convincing my parents, and a loan. I say if you want it, go for it, the only thing that is stopping me from putting a down payment on an S, is pretty much myself. I dont want to be in debt like a majority of students, so I am gonna hold off for a few more months.

 

Get whatever job you can, move out, travel, learn. Figure out what you want to do with your life. Get educated (school or real world) and live your life. Taking chances and regretting is better than not taking chances and regretting. I missed out on things because of my schooling, my sister in law (who is much smarter than I am) is doing the same schooling, but also traveling the world and doing many interesting things. I accomplished alot but I regret the things I didn't even try.

 

i think for the kind of "risks" the OP is talking about, the last thing you want is a house and a car payment. in fact, a lot of the time i think that i shouldn't have bought an S at my age (23 in '05, straight out of college). it's made things tougher but i'm definitely keeping the car.

did you go to college? it's not too late at 24 but you'll be 6 years older than most incoming freshman.

if you have a lot of money saved up, take a round-the-world trip...you'll see a lot and you'll be forced to meet a lot of people if you travel alone. or, pack up and move to another city, and look for a job after you get there. it's always nice switching things up like that.

edit: i just read through the previous posts and it looks like other people have already stated what i have...but maybe that just re-inforces the points brought up already!

 

I own and operate an environmental services firm. Much of what I do in the field is inherently dangerous. I use backhoes, long reach excavators, high torque drill rigs, front end loaders, dump trucks, heavy lift cranes, etc. I stand at the edge of 60-foot excavations. I'm exposed to toxic chemicals. I and my crew often wear protective gear and take documented health and safety precautions. I've had an excavator track run over my toe. I've had a drill rig slide hammer rigging fly off and and whiz right by my ear. I've had a 10-pound wrench dropped on my head (wearing a hardhat) from 30 feet up a drill rig tower. I've had excavations cave in beneath me. Next week I'm pulling a boiler out of a creek in rugged terrain with a helicopter. I have to get underneath the boiler and inspect its bottom after the helicopter has lifted it off the surface. I love what I do, I'm constantly solving problems and learning new things, and I feel that I'm doing something positive for God's green earth. The risks are part of my life and I accept them. My wife keeps taking out more and more life insurance on me. (I think she's going to bump off.)

 

I live by this NO REGRETS. I did a lot of stuff in my youth, and as I tell people that are waiting for a liver transplant, I'm now paying for the sins of my youth, but life goes on. Yes I did a lot of dumb stuff, but I've had a hell of ride so far.

 

What is the enjoyment in life, if you dont get to do dumb thing?...........to an extent that is.