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Are these two statements the same?
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Yes. Which is a stupid idea. 
By the way... OP, you could've been more tactful with your response. Rather than calling the idea stupid, you could've simply stated the reason(s) that the idea was stupid, without ever labelling it as such. The person (although female) might've eventually realized the shortcomings of the idea once they were concisely stated.
By the way... OP, you could've been more tactful with your response. Rather than calling the idea stupid, you could've simply stated the reason(s) that the idea was stupid, without ever labelling it as such. The person (although female) might've eventually realized the shortcomings of the idea once they were concisely stated.
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Originally Posted by s2kmiami69' timestamp='1310094826' post='20758155
op is trying to explain logic to a woman...i lold
By the way... OP, you could've been more tactful with your response. Rather than calling the idea stupid, you could've simply stated the reason(s) that the idea was stupid, without ever labelling it as such. The person (although female) might've eventually realized the shortcomings of the idea once they were concisely stated.
As far as women and logic, my debate partner in high school was female and we won almost every time, due to her skills more than mine. The best students in most of my math classes and the best math teachers are usually women, despite being a minority. My cousin is an attorney, and I'd guess her reasoning and logic skills must be at least average given she graduated summa cum laude. But yeah, are incapable of logical reasoning :/
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Originally Posted by s2kmiami69' timestamp='1310094826' post='20758155
op is trying to explain logic to a woman...i lold
By the way... OP, you could've been more tactful with your response. Rather than calling the idea stupid, you could've simply stated the reason(s) that the idea was stupid, without ever labelling it as such. The person (although female) might've eventually realized the shortcomings of the idea once they were concisely stated.
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It's generally good practice to avoid use of the word "stupid" as it triggers reactions as described. You might as well have said she was behaving like a bitch. Regardless of whether you were calling her a bitch or comparing her behavior to that of a bitch, the use of the word makes further rational discussion difficult.
In other words, right or wrong, your language triggered a predictable response. Saying "that's stupid" is an extreme response that probably wasn't warranted, and the reaction was easily predictable. You would probably react the same way if she had responded to one of your ideas with the same language and tone.
Your choice of words does not imply a deep amount of thought and careful reasoning on your part prior to your outburst. To the contrary, it comes across as dismissive, as if you think the speaker is, well, stupid and therefore their ideas do not require careful consideration.
It's all well and good to blame others for their reaction to one's language, but if one fails to grasp how their choice of words and delivery consistently trigger negative reactions, one can hardly accurately claim that the problem is "other people."
In other words, right or wrong, your language triggered a predictable response. Saying "that's stupid" is an extreme response that probably wasn't warranted, and the reaction was easily predictable. You would probably react the same way if she had responded to one of your ideas with the same language and tone.
Your choice of words does not imply a deep amount of thought and careful reasoning on your part prior to your outburst. To the contrary, it comes across as dismissive, as if you think the speaker is, well, stupid and therefore their ideas do not require careful consideration.
It's all well and good to blame others for their reaction to one's language, but if one fails to grasp how their choice of words and delivery consistently trigger negative reactions, one can hardly accurately claim that the problem is "other people."
