why does it always seem like successful adults end up having low life kids??? have anyone else noticed this trend...?

for example, there's this girl i went to school with who was a couple years younger than me. she was always in trouble, got sent to military school, is the biggest drama monger you'll ever meet, faked a pregnancy, has a terrible attitude, and dropped out of high school. this past summer she got married at the fresh age of 18 and is "pregnant" again. though, she could very well be faking it. her and my little sister have beef over a guy that she is unwilling to let go of, despite the fact that she's married now and due to be a parent. a couple weeks ago i went to a party and parked behind her friend's blazer. me and my friend left the party a short while later and she was waiting in the blazer with her friend. as soon as we got in my car, they turned their engine on and burnt out in an attempt to spray gravel on my hood. why? cause she doesn't like my sister i guess, so somehow i'm now involved in it. i work near where she lives and since that incident, this girl has followed me to my work on 3 seperate occasions. i don't know why... she's a pain in my fawking ass. keep in mind that i hardly know this girl, other then i went to school with her, and she doesn't get along with my little sister.

anyway, the point of the story is that i'm the account rep for RE/MAX at the newspaper i work at. there's one agent in particular that i LOVE. she's very successful, really has her shit together. she's this gorgeous tall blonde... total milf. the other day i realized that she's this girl's mom. they have the same last name and she's mentioned in conversations bits & pieces about her daughter and i finally put it all together that they're mother & daughter. her daughter (the pain in the ass) is really short, dark haired, and has this huge nose. i can't believe it...

what pisses me off is that i would LOVE to have a mom like that. someone who is that successful and well known. there's absolutely no doubt that i'd be following in her foot steps and making a name for myself in real estate with her help. but NO, she has this low life drop-out daughter who is pregnant and stalks me in her free time. i feel sorry for the lady...

remember charlie wenzel... and how his dad was some decorated hot-shot navy pilot? or the bush twins... why do these kids seem so ungrateful for the privilege they were born into? ugh... frustrates the hell out of me. my mom is a checker at a grocery store. i love her, but it'd be great if she was some successful real estate agent listing spendy homes.

 

your mom is a checker at the grocery store and you drive an S2000? Shouldn't you help her out with the bills?
If you drive a Corolla or Civic, then your mom could theoretically have an extra few grands a year.

 

my mom doesn't pay for my car... i do. if that's what you mean. my parents aren't scrounging for money. they have a nice house and everything. but as far as knowing "the right people," i'm kind of on my own there. i know so many kids who only have the job they have because their parents had the hook up.

 

I dont know why, but this is how it usually goes. Look at all the people in Hollywood.

Hey, why not mention to her mom, what she did to your car? as well, if she is pregnant, she has no business whatsoever at a party IMO. That should be your grounds for telling her.

 

i really don't plan on telling her mom that i even know who her daughter is. really don't want to get into that nonsense at work, i don't think it'd be very professional.

 

My parents started out pretty poor back in the day.. and i saw that.. now, i hav my s2000 paid off, and a very decent job.. i think experience, knowing and seeing hardwork first hand is a good start.. then my parents are well off, and i never really relied on them.. if i could i totally could have lived off of them.. but i like being independently successful better... MAKES YOU APPRECIATE THINGS EVEN BETTER..

 

I think it's all in the sense of ownership. IMHO if you're handed everything you're entire life you come to expect it and don't feel any ownership over anything. Whether it be clothes, you bank account, your job, your schooling, whatever - in my opinion there is something to be said for at least a modest amount of work, no matter how much your parents make.

C_Unit, my background is a lot like yours, except for my mother has worked in the gov't for practically my entire life and my dad worked in telecomms for years, only to keep getting laid off when the company would go under/have massive workforce reductions. Now they're both gov't - not poor but not rich, very middle class.

I got a job when I was 16 and haven't had more than a month off since (when I moved countries, the month I arrived and the month I came back) - so yes I'm bias.

 

Children are the product of their parents. This statement is as true as it is potentially troubling. Parents, through their desire to please their kids and supply them with things 'they never had,' often forget discipline as an integral piece of raising a child. They do not administer punishment as it is administered in the real world, thus the child develops a selfish, skewed perception of reality. Also, it is often very hard to maintain a successful career and sacrifices 'have' to be made. By replacing 'time spent' with 'monetary gifts' parents hope to even out and justify their away time. Monetary gifts, though, such as video games and clothing, do not raise children to have wisdom and discernment in every day life. It takes a wise parent to do this, and that is anything but 'easy,' no matter your financial situation.

 

Perhaps part of the problem could be that those "successful" parents got their success by working those 60 hour workweeks for the promotion when their children were young and they were never around to raise them. I put successful in quotes because how can a mother really be considered a success when their 18 year old daughter is such a failure at life?

 

Sorry, c_unit, I have to absolutely disagree with the second half of your post. Maybe I'm not reading your post in the light in which it was written, but it sounds like looking up to the blonde milfy woman is misguided.

So she's a success in local real estate - great for her. She has a mess of a daughter, so her parenting skills are suspect at best. It seems your mom did right by you, no?

Perhaps its just that your definition of knowing the 'right' people and mine are just different. Or perhaps it's just that after working in So Cal real estate while I was going to college lessened dramatically my respect for 'luxury real estate' brokers in general.

As far as the offspring of wealthy people goes - Metaphorically speaking, when someone picks up after you your entire life, your generally less likely to pick up anything on your own.