Who has lost the love of their life before?
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Russ,
Like I said, I would give my life for my wife. We are so synced it's not even funny. She put's up with my racing , hell she even named our two little boys after F1 drivers. She is very independent and secure with herself (I'm too strong willed to put up with insecure weak women). As a example this past Labor Day I went dove hunting with the guys. These guys wanted to go to a strip club (Imperial Valley, the women I've seen in that area are bigguns) and I told them before I left I had gone to a members only club and I didn't want to fade those memories with what I assumed I would see in a Imperial Valley strip club. I was talking to my wife on the cell when they were trying to talk me into going, she tried to get me to go (I didn't ,when they came back they finally admitted the girls were sub par). The reason these guys were so adamant about going was that there wive's won't let them go at home . How insecure is that? If your going to cheat, your going to cheat.
My wife is a MENSA member , awesome mother,and for me the best partner I could have ever been blessed with. But like my grandmother said there will be more. I have great memories of the girls of the past, and I trully wish them well.
So if my wife woke up one day and decided to leave , I really would wish her well thank her for everything and find her replacement . You can't force someone to stay or like you.
Live for today! Life is very short and your going to be dead for a long time .
Like I said, I would give my life for my wife. We are so synced it's not even funny. She put's up with my racing , hell she even named our two little boys after F1 drivers. She is very independent and secure with herself (I'm too strong willed to put up with insecure weak women). As a example this past Labor Day I went dove hunting with the guys. These guys wanted to go to a strip club (Imperial Valley, the women I've seen in that area are bigguns) and I told them before I left I had gone to a members only club and I didn't want to fade those memories with what I assumed I would see in a Imperial Valley strip club. I was talking to my wife on the cell when they were trying to talk me into going, she tried to get me to go (I didn't ,when they came back they finally admitted the girls were sub par). The reason these guys were so adamant about going was that there wive's won't let them go at home . How insecure is that? If your going to cheat, your going to cheat.
My wife is a MENSA member , awesome mother,and for me the best partner I could have ever been blessed with. But like my grandmother said there will be more. I have great memories of the girls of the past, and I trully wish them well.
So if my wife woke up one day and decided to leave , I really would wish her well thank her for everything and find her replacement . You can't force someone to stay or like you.
Live for today! Life is very short and your going to be dead for a long time .
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Originally posted by LordVagabond
Once in a true fashion, and once when I was young and still not totally understanding of love and life.
Once in a true fashion, and once when I was young and still not totally understanding of love and life.
The girl that currently holds the little key to my , Jennifer... although we are in the "good friends for now" stage right now
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Touchy subject but this is great stuff. The quote of "Distance extinquishes little passions yet intensifies great ones...like the wind which can burn out a candle and yet, feed a fire." is a great one.
As for me, I recently broke up with my 5 year gf. We had our good and bad times but I thought it was good until she told me she needed SPACE. Initially, I didn't understand but for the last 3 weeks I've been changed into a new person, one whos been broken down to their essential elements and recreated into something different, something better. It still hurts like hell and I don't know when it will be over but I would consider this one my first great lost.
As for me, I recently broke up with my 5 year gf. We had our good and bad times but I thought it was good until she told me she needed SPACE. Initially, I didn't understand but for the last 3 weeks I've been changed into a new person, one whos been broken down to their essential elements and recreated into something different, something better. It still hurts like hell and I don't know when it will be over but I would consider this one my first great lost.
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Woodson: no. Jenn and I never went past good friends. She has a b/f now and we are still good friends. ^_^
I was referring to Crystal (young and not understanding) and my last g/f, Kelly (true fashion), whom I've had an on/off/on/off relationship with onto S2KI. Relationship ended messily a while back...
Anyways!
Former: I know my advice doesn't count for much, but I will give it anyways.
It's not about forgetting about the relationship. It's about accepting that things have moved on and cherishing the memories you have. When Kate died last year, when everything went wrong with my life (as you guys know), while I wasn't in love with her, she still was a best friend and it did pitch me into a period of grief and depression.
Afterwards, it made me realize that it's all about what you take with you, and I took the good memories and I've been "reborn," as you have been experiencing, because of it. It hurts, but hey, take the good and cherish it ^_^
One last word... it took me 8 months to get over Kate's death and get my life back on track. I did some dumb shit in the "in between" as many people know. But things will change and get better. Don't expect to be over your ex for quite a while.
I will make the disclaimer right here and now: My advice is there as it is, take it or leave it. I've lost g/f's too, and while I've never had a g/f experience as deep and as long as you, I have also lost the life of one of the best friends I had. I understand the pain, albeit from a different angle.
I was referring to Crystal (young and not understanding) and my last g/f, Kelly (true fashion), whom I've had an on/off/on/off relationship with onto S2KI. Relationship ended messily a while back...
Anyways!
Former: I know my advice doesn't count for much, but I will give it anyways.
It's not about forgetting about the relationship. It's about accepting that things have moved on and cherishing the memories you have. When Kate died last year, when everything went wrong with my life (as you guys know), while I wasn't in love with her, she still was a best friend and it did pitch me into a period of grief and depression.
Afterwards, it made me realize that it's all about what you take with you, and I took the good memories and I've been "reborn," as you have been experiencing, because of it. It hurts, but hey, take the good and cherish it ^_^
One last word... it took me 8 months to get over Kate's death and get my life back on track. I did some dumb shit in the "in between" as many people know. But things will change and get better. Don't expect to be over your ex for quite a while.
I will make the disclaimer right here and now: My advice is there as it is, take it or leave it. I've lost g/f's too, and while I've never had a g/f experience as deep and as long as you, I have also lost the life of one of the best friends I had. I understand the pain, albeit from a different angle.
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If you are truly in love, and if you lose that person, then I would feel like I lost a part of myself. My girlfriend is all I think about. She is the one for me and I to spend the rest of my life with her. If I lost her, I think it would take me a very long time to live normal again. I still remember my first love. Although a special type of love, it's not the same as I feel for my current gf.
jrfblueeyes,
I'm very sorry to hear about the loss of your spouse. I can not imagine losing someone so close. I've seen the sadness my grandparents went through when their spouse passed away. They were never the same.
jrfblueeyes,
I'm very sorry to hear about the loss of your spouse. I can not imagine losing someone so close. I've seen the sadness my grandparents went through when their spouse passed away. They were never the same.
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Listening to music or taking a long drive by myself usually passes the time. It isn't a cure, only time works for me. I won't say the usual hey there will be someone else... because no one really knows who really is the "one", but I suggest no matter how corny this seems...
Listen to, John Mayer - Wheel
good song
Listen to, John Mayer - Wheel
good song