If both parents are well off enough who should be paying for what in your opinion?

Weddings can cost as much as you want to spend these days and generally its up to the bride and partly the groom how much it runs so I don't believe it should all ride on the parents. To be honest I don't see that they should have to put anything in except a nice present but generally that doesn't happen. If you're old and mature enough to tie the knot then to some extent you should be able to support your own function etc. but I understand that's just my opinion.

But if not then how much is enough? Is there a minimum share for each party? If there's been a precedent set with sibling's marriages is that excuse to match and not exceed a value in order to keep peace with family or should it remain a share of the total to keep the bride and groom happy?

This is something that I can see would easily stir up a happy nest because there are so many interested parties each with their own beliefs on the matter and resolution could be down a rocky path.

Interested to hear experiences too

 

I always thought it was just part of raising a girl? Bride's parents; go with tradition... IF both sets of parents are well-off, or at least solvent (since you said both sets of parents are "well off enough").

 

The people who the event is planned for should pay.

If the bride wants a fairy-tale wedding, she or her parents should pay.
If the bride and groom are older and the reception and guest lists are their friends and work colleagues, they should split it.

If the wedding is a big social / political showcase populated by parents' associates and people they don't like, but are trying to impress... they should pay.

Then again, if the parents are stinking rich... why don't they pay?

 

i think it depends on a lot of factors. nevertheless, my wife and i recently got married (we are 25 and 23). both our parents were grateful enough to throw in $10k each on the wedding, then her and i spent about $10k on additonal wedding stuff and the honeymoon...so 33:33:33 for us.

 

The government.

 

My parents are old school, but my wife's parents arent. They were expecting the inlaws to cover it, but the inlaws decided that they wanted half so I ended up paying instead of my folks.

For my sisters upcoming wedding, my parents will be taking care of the entire bill.

When it comes to money, there's always a certain uncomforable-ness that the couple will face if they dont pay for the wedding themselves.

 

Having raised and had two daughters married we went with the traditional way. In both cases the in-laws were in good $ shape but, we took the high road. The in-laws paid for the rehearsal dinner. Which given the number of people who came in from out of town (brothers, sisters, kids, etc) that were invited to the dinner they paid their fair share.

 

I'm 21 and I would like to get married within the next 5 years. Whether I marry someone rich or poor, I will still pay for the wedding. If the bride's parents want to help out, then I'll tell them whatever they give will be used for the honeymoon.

 

Groom's parent here. We paid for the rehearsal dinner and paid off the priest. Bride's parents paid for the reception. I think that's traditional.

If it was up to me nobody would spend big bucks on the wedding. Seems like a waste and money that the newlyweds could use themselves.

 

My wife's mom forked out all the cash for our wedding, and it was a buttload of money. She said it was her gift to us and if she offered to pay for it, what person in there right mind would refuse! I ended up paying for the rings for my wife and we both split the cost to the honeymoon. Plus in return, since it was an asian wedding and not the traditional church type wedding, we also got close to 25grand back from everyone that attended. Now if her mom didn't offer to pay, i believe the both of us would've put up the money to finance the wedding.