The situation is that the groom's parents offered $4.5k up front before knowing what it would cost because that's what they'd contributed to their two other son's weddings.

The bride wasn't happy with that because she expected 50:50 or at least thirds and she figured the wedding to run around $30k. Obviously people are going to have different opinions and beliefs but I think it'd be rude to expect a certain amount from someone based on what you wanted to spend. Issue now is that the bride's parents insist on making up the difference when the groom has already offered and can afford to.

So things aren't even and the bride believes the only way to fix things is to ask for more money. The only 2 solutions I see are to have the groom pay the difference or to have a cheaper wedding. Either way it should keep everyone happy unless they're stubborn which they are

 

DONT GET MARRIED
Serioulsy you'll pay for the divorce.

 

My first one less then $100.
My second everyone put some money in, I worked over time to help pay for stuff. To bad it did not last long.
If I do it again will be on the cheap again.

 

Great answer.

I agree completly.

I don't know about your wedding or others on this board, but the Indian weddings I've been involved with cause a lot of pain and anger and hate due to politics/money, etc.

 

I agree with that too.

WRT the parents, neither are stinking rich but neither are struggling by a long shot. There's a long stretch between the two and I guess they're both comfortable in their own way financially.

 

I think the guy should pay 10 grand, if the girl wants anything fancier she or her parents should fork over the rest

 

weddings are too expensive damnit that could be my downpayment on a new car!!

 

Tradition has it that the bride's parents are on the hook, mainly because the bride usually wants a big to do...

 

I agree!

My fiance and I are paying for everything ourselves. Why should other people have to pay for my party?

We know our budget and it keeps this whole thing from getting out of control. We are actually able to say to the 'less than wanted' guests...sorry not enough room...and actually mean it!

Plus...I'm the oldest of 4 (two boys, two girls) and my parents have already done one of my sisters weddings. Not the whole thing, but a large majority of it. And my fiance's dad hasn't been around for about 7 years, and her mom doesn't have a job. So we really don't have much of a choice. Although, my parents offered to help a little (provide the DJ), and we gladly accepted.

But like I said, paying for it ourselves means we get to control the size and how much we spend.

Which reminds me...I've gotta call our reverend...

 

Nobody else should have to pay for it other then the bride and groom.