So I moved 3000 miles away from home, now in the middle of a 2 month vacation where I've gone home and done nothing but hang out partying with everyone, seems like I never left. "You can't go home again" seems like full on bullshit...any idea why this seems to be a common cliche?

And yes, being drunk makes everything seem more fun.

 

Three aspects to the saying -

1) How long were you away?
2) How much have you personally changed since?
3) How much has "home" changed since?

 

you are 28 years old and are hanging out and partying with everyone.... what the **** do they ("everyone") do that they have time to hang out and party?


I wish I could take 2 months off....

o ya.

 

I am with scot.

I am 21, been away from shithole town where is graduated and havent been able to "go back" since first semester of freshman year.

 

both my parents passed away in houston so i haven't been back for a while. everytime i go back it brings back bad memories. Not even worth the friends to go back... Before someone says so what, parents pass; I'm still in college, 22 yo, mom passed away freshman year spring break, dad just passed away this past spring break.

 

Very sorry to hear man . . . for staying in school and keeping yourself together through everything! It can't be easy!

 

The cliche is because things change over time. Thing is, they do. The drive-in movies I had so many memories of is now a car dealership and the rest of my "home town" is massively changed.

 

Give it more time. Like 20 years before you try going home...

 

I think the fact that you still think of it as home (probably don't have your own home established yet) is another reason it doesn't feel weird yet. Once home is where you live, and not where your parents live, it's different to go back, because you realize that's not your home any more. I think it really hit with me a few years after I moved away and my parents turned my room into a study....Plus all my friends were all in different countries and stuff.

 

lol

The thing about my hometown is 25 years later things haven't changed!

Still a factory town. Still 11 bars and only 10,000 people. Same reservation outside of town and same racial attitudes. Same last names causing the same shit they were 30 years ago, just different first names! Same families trying to run everything and same negative attitudes.

I go home now just to realize how good things in my life have become. I have taken my children back to show them where their parents began and for them to realize how good they have it.

I can go 'home' but I can't get back out quick enough.