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Originally Posted by muthangya,Feb 17 2009, 01:20 PM
Yes, me thinks you rude, but hopefully you're just ignorant 
You should have waited for him to return, sitting or standing, and then asked if he was just setting his stuff down or holding the table--obviously he was doing the latter as it was fairly crowded Starbucks. After that, you could have asked if you could share the table with him.
In his eyes, you are just an inconsiderate jerk taking his spot. And be honest, if you're talking about those small, round tables at Starbucks, you plus a laptop is not leaving much area for sharing.
You should have waited for him to return, sitting or standing, and then asked if he was just setting his stuff down or holding the table--obviously he was doing the latter as it was fairly crowded Starbucks. After that, you could have asked if you could share the table with him.
In his eyes, you are just an inconsiderate jerk taking his spot. And be honest, if you're talking about those small, round tables at Starbucks, you plus a laptop is not leaving much area for sharing.
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Originally Posted by muthangya,Feb 17 2009, 01:20 PM
Yes, me thinks you rude, but hopefully you're just ignorant
You should have waited for him to return, sitting or standing, and then asked if he was just setting his stuff down or holding the table--obviously he was doing the latter as it was fairly crowded Starbucks. After that, you could have asked if you could share the table with him.
In his eyes, you are just an inconsiderate jerk taking his spot. And be honest, if you're talking about those small, round tables at Starbucks, you plus a laptop is not leaving much area for sharing.
You should have waited for him to return, sitting or standing, and then asked if he was just setting his stuff down or holding the table--obviously he was doing the latter as it was fairly crowded Starbucks. After that, you could have asked if you could share the table with him.
In his eyes, you are just an inconsiderate jerk taking his spot. And be honest, if you're talking about those small, round tables at Starbucks, you plus a laptop is not leaving much area for sharing.
There's absolutely nothing wrong with sharing a table with a complete stranger. You don't need permission to share a table when it's crowded.
If it's not crowded then yes, it would be strange and maybe a little rude to share a table.
I take it you're not from a very urban area? Not an insult or anything. It's just that I used to live in an urban setting and the places I would frequent are usually very crowded. It's perfectly normal to sit where there is room.
I now live in a suburban area and I can see that people here might be uncomfortable sharing a table with a stranger (since it's a rare occurance), but I still don't see how it's rude.
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I know you did not set up your laptop yet, but that size table would not be ideal for sharing if you have a laptop that is going to take up most of the table space.
It's really just a matter of common courtesy. You should have said something when he came back to his table, but it probably looked like you were just commandeering his table.
I have no qualms about sharing, even if that is not the norm in the tiny hamlet of Dallas
, but it'd just be polite to ask rather than just appear to take, doncha think?
It's really just a matter of common courtesy. You should have said something when he came back to his table, but it probably looked like you were just commandeering his table.
I have no qualms about sharing, even if that is not the norm in the tiny hamlet of Dallas
, but it'd just be polite to ask rather than just appear to take, doncha think?
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Originally Posted by muthangya,Feb 17 2009, 12:37 PM
It's really just a matter of common courtesy. You should have said something when he came back to his table, but it probably looked like you were just commandeering his table.
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Originally Posted by thebig33tuna,Feb 17 2009, 02:46 PM
i would have said something when he came back to grab his stuff. ..
