you did nothing wrong, and did not act irrationally, someone was sitting on YOUR property
oh nooo you scared the kid, he was sitting on a car and the alarm went off he'll probably be scarred for life

the kids gunna be fine hes not going to have nightmares about killer car alarms, and while you guys r right its not the kids fault, its sending a message to his retarded father

sitting a kid on the hood of your s2000 saves the lazy dad about 3 extra feet he woulda had to bend down to tie the kids shoe, why are people so dumb

 

i don't see how i really endangered his kid. granted it startled them but he was the one who sat his kid on my car to begin with.. he should have seen that he was in the wrong first...

 

I feel like he still reacted in a far better manner than he could have. Rather than just walking up yelling at the guy, he chose an indirect way of getting his point across that in no way harmed anyone. Sure it scared the kid.. but it didn't cause any physical harm.

Why would it be any different from the dad sitting the kid on the car, and the alarm going off by itself?

 

Shoulda just pulled out your phone snapped a picture. walked straight up to them snap a close up. then ask them how they intend to pay for the damage to the paint.

On a side note...
I watched a lady open her door and hit my car, then look at me while i was walking towards it, pick up her baby and walk away.
Only reason I didnt go off at her is 1. the baby, 2. my gf was next to me 3. i knew i could buff it out.

Stay calm.


or pick up the nearest large object and go HAM....( no seriously...stay calm )

 

I watched two people in the same WEEK back into my Integra once. First one I watched from my balcony a guy getting into a HUGE parallel parking spot (you could've easily parked a Town Car in there, and he had a Focus) and backing right into my car anyway. When he got out I yelled down there, "I saw that. I'm coming down to check my car, stay there." Luckily no damage, but that guy probably actually gave a shit the next time he parallel parked.

The next week, some lady in a BRAND new CLS550 - with parking sensors - was backing into a parallel spot, with no one - NO ONE - in front of her for the entire block! Literally 100+ feet of room, and parking sensors in a very nice new $80k car. Still hits me. Either got frustrated or scared and actually gave up and went to park down the block (I don't know why she chose the spot next to the only car around in the first place). Well, I saw all this, but this time I was on the 5th floor of my g/f's huge apartment building, so I had to sprint down the long hallway, take the elevator, and then ran down the block and said, "Excuse me, ma'am. You just hit my car. Were you even going to check to see if you damaged it?" "Oh uh... yeah I was going over there right now." "Right you were. Let's check it out." Luckily, again no damage, which was surprising because it was more than just a tap.

It just comes with being a car guy. We spend hours each month, days each year making our cars look nice, and parking defensively all the time. But 95% of the population just doesn't give a shit and/or is completely oblivious and disrespectful. It makes me want to get a beater just so I don't have to care.

 

i don't see how i really endangered his kid. granted it startled them but he was the one who sat his kid on my car to begin with.. he should have seen that he was in the wrong first...
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He should have.... and you should have....

Here's the thing: what he did was wrong, but you didn't present it to him in a way that he could understand it. You don't understand why he reacted to you upsetting someone so VERY precious to him (his kid) just as much as he doesn't understand why you reacted to him upsetting you by disrespecting something VERY precious to you (your car). If it was your kid, you might have reacted the same way. JUST like you did with your car.

So long as we keep walking around not seeing it from the other person's perspective, we aren't going to get along very well. We can express things in such a way that there is *some* chance the other guy will get it and maybe learn from it. But pissing people off doesn't teach them anything.

That stated, if anyone were to hear the audio recording of what's on my car's dashcam on a daily basis, you would think that I pretty much hate every driver on the road with how often I refer to other drivers as "effing morons" or "self-centered, unaware, imbeciles."

 

I think what many of us forget is that, to the majority of the rest of the population (men, women, and children alike), a car is "just a car." The average person sees their car as a way to get from point A to point B, or as a place to keep their clothes, schoolbooks, kids' toys, the remnants of this morning's breakfast burrito eaten hastily on the way to the office, or a convenient counter on which to place things, or a nice replacement for a stool, or something you replace in 5 years because it's going to be all scratched up and icky by then anyway. This thing that a small percentage of the population sees as a precious commodity which we wash and wax and dote on, the majority of the world sees as a disposable appliance.

 

I definitely agree that we care about our cars more than the average person but it baffles me that a person can think it's okay to touch/use property that isn't theirs. I don't care if it was a bicycle.. I was always taught to never touch anything that wasn't mine. Being a full grown adult and not realizing this is beyond me.

 

It's fine that a car is just a car to them... But regardless of what it is, they need to respect it like it is someone else's, which it was. Just because you wear shoes on your carpet, doesn't mean you're going to wear them on mine.

 

+1. Being Asian, I don't get why everyone else doesn't also do this. Shoes are dirty...