A Few Prayers/Thoughts/Good Vibes Requested
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From: Smalltown
Our sympathies.
It's hard when you become the oldest generation in the family.
I didn't have grandparents, for the most part. My Dad's parents were both gone when I was born, Mom's mother died quite young (42) and her Dad wasn't into the grandparent thing.
We've tried to be good grandparents to our grandchildren and create memories for them. I always envied kids who had grandparents. It seemed like such a special relationship I missed out on. I hope your son has wonderful memories of those who have passed.
It's hard when you become the oldest generation in the family.
I didn't have grandparents, for the most part. My Dad's parents were both gone when I was born, Mom's mother died quite young (42) and her Dad wasn't into the grandparent thing.
We've tried to be good grandparents to our grandchildren and create memories for them. I always envied kids who had grandparents. It seemed like such a special relationship I missed out on. I hope your son has wonderful memories of those who have passed.
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From: Lewes, DE
Sorry, my deepest sympathy to you and your family.My parents and Aunt and Uncle lived with my grandfather in a row house in Baltimore. He was my mothers Dad. He died in 1956, I was 12. I took it very hard as I was his favorite grand child.He called me Butch. I have great memories of him. He was a machinist who took good care of his family. I hope to be like him as a grandfather. I was also very close to my other grandparents and they had a big old white house where my grandfather raised vegetables in his big garden and i helped him. My grandmother and grandfather loved it when I spent the night and she made the best pancakes ever for me for breakfast. I was very lucky to have known them and I miss them very much. 
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From: bolton
first let me express my sorrow for having to say good bye to a loved one.
As a parent I can appreciate your angst for your son.
Please forgive me if I sound like I am preaching.
You have to choices.
You can focus on your loss and the pain that brings or you can rejoice at a life well lived.
My father died when I was 17 so my son never got to meet his grandfather.
At the tender age of 3 1/2 he had figured out he should have another grandparent.
We were driving to his grandparents, my wife's folks, when he asked "when am I going to see my grampa?"
My wife replied " we'll be there in a little while."
He replied, " no my other grampa."
We had to explain to a little child that he would never see him then we had to console him as the truth became crystal clear.
There are many 28 year olds who not only don't have grandparents but may not have parents.
So I would argue that you all should rejoice that your son has had his grandparents for so long.
So rejoice and celebrate for a life, well lived.
As a parent I can appreciate your angst for your son.
Please forgive me if I sound like I am preaching.
You have to choices.
You can focus on your loss and the pain that brings or you can rejoice at a life well lived.
My father died when I was 17 so my son never got to meet his grandfather.
At the tender age of 3 1/2 he had figured out he should have another grandparent.
We were driving to his grandparents, my wife's folks, when he asked "when am I going to see my grampa?"
My wife replied " we'll be there in a little while."
He replied, " no my other grampa."
We had to explain to a little child that he would never see him then we had to console him as the truth became crystal clear.
There are many 28 year olds who not only don't have grandparents but may not have parents.
So I would argue that you all should rejoice that your son has had his grandparents for so long.
So rejoice and celebrate for a life, well lived.
