Ryuu, I'll keep PMing with you. Nothing wrong with asking for some compassion on a car forum. People do it all the time. We have threads devoted to it. We can and do help each other.

 

Fit, no, it wasn't, justify it any way you wish.. you've always been a good guy.. I feel I have as well.. i'd prefer we all sit down an share a laugh an car stories.. as we have in the past..

you didn't need to toss another barb.. and Patty is correct, many here have sought an received help from many here through the years..

 

C'mon.

You started out by stating that "we have a spy or non s2000 person who may work for my X or even be my x." It's the Internet: everything you post will be preserved forever.

If you'd like some advice, or just some moral support, that's appropriate. But to think that an Internet website would not be available to "a spy or non s2000 person who may work for my X or even be my x." is unrealistic.

I wish you well in what is perhaps the most stressful event that can happen to a human being. If I can provide moral support, PM me. Unfortunately, the only support I can offer you involves time-worn cliches.

 

I was writing about parent care.. nothing I wrote says anything not known.. did not even imagine this someplace secret an safe.. i sat here for nearly 6 years not saying anything, little bleeps in others posts, some work i'd done on my own s2000, but nothing about anything personal.. and just when I was expressing what I have been going through in regards to parent care.. I got told someone is here looking at whatever for the x... caused me to re read anything I wrote.. I deleted a lot of that in disgust, and was going to just go back to not saying anything.. many of my friends asked what happen over night, some I have a great respect for, an so I wrote this blog an let them have a better understanding of that what.. I don't have anything to hide.. I am going to use my friends help in talking stuff through.. esp about parent care..

even my not having a lawyer, is known...

I look at it mostly as more harassment from the x... let her do her worse.. and hope for the best...

 

Ryuu, I hope all works out as best it can. You don't need to explain or justify anything to this group. Hopefully, most will respect you for just being yourself. If not, oh, well.

 

thanks man.. you know, I need a serious vacation..

 

I'm not sure I even know who you are or where you live. In most states you can find organizations that will provide a family law attorney on either a pro-bono basis or at a sliding scale depending on your financial situation. Check with your state's bar association. They may be able to point you in the right direction. Law schools often have similar programs that you can take advantage of. Flt's advice regarding professional help could also put you in touch with a counselor who knows all of the pro-bono organizations, so I would not dismiss his comments so quickly even if you found his tone offensive. There are all sorts of support groups for people going through a divorce. even if you can't afford to pay for counseling, such groups can offer support for free or nearly free.

Perhaps you are fully capable of representing yourself in court. Some are. Most are not. If I were in your shoes I would ask the court for a continuance and find a lawyer to represent me. Tell the court you lost your prior lawyer and need a continuance to find new counsel. BEFORE your court date, be sure to put in some applications for assistance with whatever organizations you were able to identify today when you followed my adivce in the paragraph above. The judge is far more likely to grant a continuance if you can tell him exactly what you have done to find a lawyer. If you just show up and say "I want a continuance to get a lawyer" but you have not done anything to find one and have no hope of finding one then the judge will be unsympathetic. Even if you already got one continuance for this purpose, you could get another if the judge believes you are working towards getting a lawyer. The 17th is still a long way off. You could even find a lawyer in that time and have him or her appear in court and ask for a continuance in order to review the record before the proceedings go any further.

http://www.attorneys.com/divorce/fin...ree-resources/

http://research.lawyers.com/When-You...-a-Lawyer.html

 

Bill, thank you.. and no, I wouldn't want me representing me.. like I wouldn't want a lawyer working on my electronics.. so.. wow.. i'm in florida i'll look through this.. thank you very much...

Bill, Fits ideas were fine.. they weren't new, many of the options many have suggested are ones I feel I have tried and even that doesn't stop me from trying them again.. never been pigheaded..

 

You might want to go to the court today and hand write a request for a continuance to find a new lawyer and file it with the clerk's office. That way, when you go to court, you can tell the judge you filed a request for a continuance before the court date. It doesn't have to be anything fancy. I'm sure the local clerk's office can give you a hand with this. You will probably need to send a copy to the lawyer represtnting the ex so that he or she has notice of the request. Steps like this make it clear to the judge that you are not just trying to delay things, but have a real need that you are working hard to address in a proper fashion.

Here are two links to lists of Florida pro-bono organizations.

http://apps.americanbar.org/legalser...y/florida.html

http://www.legalhandle.com/pro-bono-...s-Florida.html

Good luck.

 

^ LB is giving you some excellent advice. I'll also add that if you haven't been posting anything that isn't already known, and nothing defamatory or threatening, or posting any personal info about the other party, you don't have much to be concerned about in court regarding your online activity here.
I went through a similar situation on this site during my divorce. The Jerry-Springeresque circumstances notwithstanding, it was literally one of the best things to ever happen to me.

I've been divorced for nearly three years, very happily remarried for two, and I have it on very good authority that the ex still monitors my online activity here.
Unlike your situation there were no children involved, so I'm not quite sure what motivates this obsession of hers. Nor do I care. At this late date, she can do what she likes. However, if I find that she - or the toothless ignoramus she ran off with - interfering more directly in my life, I now have four attorneys in my extended family who are all more than happy to deal with the matter on my behalf.
I married well this time around.