UnkieT,

is it fair to make the one person you truly love choose... Say, between you and alcohal .. Fully knowing it's the answer you don't want to hear BECAUSE you love them, and don't want to lose them?

 

he's the cheapest motherfucker I've ever encountered. there is no chance of him buying a more expensive instrument. plus, as the condition of that guitar indicates, he almost never plays.

so the question is... attempt repair himself, repair at store, replace with same thing?

 

This somewhat reminds me of the bed music my band produced for a photo show way back when.

It's all very nice - but with an understood deliberation of being nice. I do appreciate them using some excellent chord voicings. Said voicings (and the drum tones) are proof they are secretly a metal band.

 

what HS did u attend?

 

"Fairness" doesn't enter into the equation. "Fairness" is a very nice thing that women dream up to polish their turds (IMHO).

Here's the deal - you need to tell the other party in very frank terms, how you feel. . . AND how a certain behavior is destroying your ability to get emotionally connected to them.

You can choose to love them; that's what compassionate people do. However, you do not have to be in a relationship with them. You have a right to not be complicit in your own oppression.

You cannot change her. Rather, we are agents of change by being our best selves. Seeing and acting upon truth is one way of being great.

Feel free to PM me or Shareall about this (Shareall has some real expertise on this sort of thing - I'm just "well-seasoned").

 

He's going to talk himself into repairing it himself. Sit back, relax, and wait for the lulz. . . or the limited possibility of success.

 

A PM will be forthcoming with that information.

 

more likely he'll try talking me into repairing it for him.

 

strange it actually occured to the brain in me head that maybe that wuz 2 personal a ? for yur tread...

I'll stick to the bizzare and unusall from now on

 

Not all women like to polish their turds - some of us don't have turds to polish.

With that out of the way, I have to agree. This scenario has all kinds of choices. The problem is that shitty options make for *very* difficult choices. We all know many things logically and rationally, but to act on that knowledge is a whole other ball of wax.

But like Unkie said, trying to change someone else is futile. We've all tried it. We've all failed. It's energy you can spend strengthening your soul instead of trying to "fix" someone. Draw on the support around you. If you choose to walk away, prepare yourself for the possibility that this may not be enough of a wake up call for her. I guarantee she loves you as much as you love her - but I've been around long enough to know that love alone is not enough.

[Oh and I wouldn't say I have expertise in this area, but maybe know a little more than the average person. Thanks though! ]