Adrian hit it right on the money.

 

dance dance revolution ?

 

No, this:

Only way to fix this is to jus cut it loose cold turkey dude. I know you said it has to drag on for 6 months, if theres a way you can cut all contact earlier it'll be better. I mean ZERO contact.. jus try to remember that you don't need to depend on a SO for happiness, think back on what you used to do for fun (minus the coke) before you were with anyone... hobbies.. whatever.

Sad to say that based on her history and past, it doesn't sound like shes breaking the habit for you anytime soon. It's like you've given the ultimatum more than once, and shes sh!tted on your chest everytime. You don't have to be mad at her... thats the path she chose.. drug abuse... the sooner you cut contact, and the sooner you can forgive her for the path she chose, the sooner you'll have this fvckin burden off your chest and feel much more relieved.

 

oh yeah, he's totally on the money.

Getting the head and heart to agree can be difficult.

 

2 heads and only one not enough blood to power them both at the same time.

 

not enough at all.

 

Guys..... Wickity....

:sigh:
Its very coincidental that the first time in awhile Ive had time to post here, the first thread I see is this one. I was on Myspace last night and saw your profile and it said "single" which was strange to me....now I know why....

Ive had the priveledge of having you as a friend of mine for more than 3 years now and it truly hurts me to be reading this. You do not deserve this at all. You need to let it go. Knowing her past, knowing all the craziness you dealt with before your first separation, you took her back into your life with hopes of making the family work. You did your best, and it wasnt meant to be. You are much better off taking care of yourself. You cant help someone who doesnt want it.

As for getting over it, well, that will come with time. Dont throw yourself into thing to forget about it. Instead, do things that make you happy, like you do when you arent working . And when you do think about it, dont dwell on the negatives of the situation.....appreciate the good times you had and the lessons you can take with you.

And yes, I did coin Mikey and Debs as the poster couple for second marriages.....who knows.....maybe second time's the charm

Ill email you my contact info....please call me if you ever need to talk :hug:

 

QT ..I see you did your reading!

 

so..... was that a novel or what?

I'm flattered that I'm a 'privilage'

thank you Soph-ie you're a sweetie. I don't know what to say about it all but... well, maybe you summed it up. That was exactly my intention with her. Right intention, wrong person.

I am doing things right this time. I'm not trying to escape and booze it up and run all over town. I'm spending time with friends who care, and doing things for myself. After wasting the last two years (six years ??? ) I don't want to waste anymore.

You guys are the best, and I'm lucky to have friends like you. Times like these you find out who really cares.

 

[QUOTE=wicky,Mar 20 2006, 03:34 PM] thanks beany.