[QUOTE]Originally posted by fanoftheliving
[B]

That's not exactly what I meant....

 

[QUOTE]Originally posted by EssTooKayTD
[B]i believe respect and compromise are the keys to a sucessful relationship.

 

Darn it, this is not what I am talking about.... I thought I was being clear, but I guess not. No no, this is not it.

 

[QUOTE]Originally posted by fanoftheliving
[B]

I completely disagree with this...

 

[QUOTE]Originally posted by EssTooKayTD
[B]

first thing's first, just discussing, not arguing

 

in that case I agrees with ya...i guess my definitions are just not quite right or skewed.

 

Definately no offense taken!

This is actually an enjoyable discussion in which each person has a good point and point of view. I am sure we are all gaining a small piece of wisdom from each other and that is the most valuable discussion you can have.

I understand your point Fan and I do agree with some of what you are saying. As long as the sacrifice does not significantly hinder or compromise who you are then it can definately be a positive thing. My opinion is that one, as was mentioned before, the sacrifices must not leave one unhappy for the benefit of the others happiness, and two the sacrifices should, and ideally would, be things that are smaller.

The best thing you can do is be sure you are with someone who really enjoys who you are as much as you do and vice versa. The closer you are in the beginning the less you will have to bend and change to fit together. There will always be change whether with someone or without the key is recognizing that and growing together.

But don't listen to me, I am still single! But, I have never been divorced either so.....

Man it looks like many of us will make someone a great wife one of these days!


WOOHOO! and with that he gets to make his avatar custom!!!
Now I am a REAL !!!

 

What the crap is going on here! Get a therapist, guys. Real men don't talk about emotions and crap! Have another beer, damnit!

(Filling the the smarta$$ role.)

 

Thanx Rue, I was slackin'

**whistles at a hot chick going past the construction site**

 

Thank goodness...someone broke the spell. I was getting ready to schedule all of us on the next episode of Dr. Phil...