[QUOTE]Originally posted by tenblade2001
[B]Just playon' boyz, Luke and I already has this discussion on the "women who love their s2000 thread".

 

I am a realist. I have run the spectrum as far as looking for that perfect someone. I tried the early on "looks are #1" and you tend to meet some vacant shallow or materialistic women. Then the flipside, screw looking for a "hot chick" go with someone who is fun. So I dated a couple of gals that I did not find necessarily really attractive but they were a hell of a lot of fun..... I still have a couple of really good friends from that but it was not the right mix either. I realized that the cover of the book needs to be there to entice me to read what is inside but if the story is bad the story is bad and there is no reason to continue reading. I need someone I find attractive and someone who can stimulate me intellectually as well as be able to have fun. The toughest yet is to find a woman that has all of that and has gotten past the point of playing games. Games=suck I just don't see the point.

Anyway Oprah I guess the long and short of it is this is why I still have not gotten married. If it happens one day great, if it doesn't, well as long as you enjoy yourself and the people around you I don't see the problem. I would rather be picky than not be and be divorced.

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[QUOTE]Originally posted by Fugu
[B]I am a realist.

 

Rules??

Only if I am in handcuffs and she has a whip and.....

oops nevermind, I mean NO never heard of a rules girls except that sweetheart CHIX REK I mean RULE..

 

Ultimately a true relationship requires a certain dissolution of self. Most people are not truly able to do this because it means one has to give up some part of themselves, whichever way you understand this, and this is perceived to be painful (in truth it is actually not painfull at all). This is why divorce statistics are so high. We live in a selfish society!

 

I refuse to be labeled selfish I just want what I want when I want it!

 

A dissolution of self I will partially agree with but I would highly caution "losing a part of yourself" if it were to go as far as changing who you are. The huge mistake that is sometimes made is the when a man and a woman fall into these somewhat stereotypical but often true points of view. A woman thinks "he has potential" and they work to change the man with this thought in mind and a man typically will accept things as they are and the woman will grow and change into something else while he remains the same. In either scenario the two will be put into a situation where they may become someone they were not before and the person you fell in love with is no longer. Admittedly this is not true in ALL cases but I would say that it is a somewhat large percent whether recognized or not. The ideal situation is to take the person for who they are and work to grow tegether and understand and accept each others faults because if you do not then you will drift apart and fall out of love. There is a lot of work involved and some are not up to the task.


Darnit fanoftheliving now you have me waxing philisophically. People are going to lose their opinion of me as a blatant smarta$$.

It is so much easier when people have low expectations of you because then you can always exceed them!

Just kidding!!

 

Go figure that it's the GUYS on this thread being sappy...

 

[QUOTE]Originally posted by Fugu
[B] The huge mistake that is sometimes made is the when a man and a woman fall into these somewhat stereotypical but often true points of view.

 

i believe respect and compromise are the keys to a successful relationship. Always treat each other with respect. And you have to learn to compromise, both people can't always get what they want. You need to sacrifice for the other person sometimes. A long as this goes both ways, you should be, "ok to go" that would be a line from Contact...what a cool movie.