sooo i broke up with the boyfriend i'd been dating for over a year a couple weeks ago... we were fighting a lot, he felt like he needed his space, yada-yada, the usual... about a week after the break up i meet this guy and he takes me out a couple times and we really hit it off, lots of chemistry, lots of common interests... this guy is sort of too good to be true: he's super good looking, he's been in the air force and knows how to fly planes and shit... (lol... i don't know about that kind of stuff but it sounded pretty impressive when he was telling me about it. hahaha i'm such a typical woman), he's really intelligent which was nice cause i hardly ever find guys that are smarter than me , etc. the entire time i'm really wary of the fact that this guy has to have a catch. i noticed that he didn't have a lot of friends and didn't mention much about past girlfriends.

everything was going pretty well with us and we were moving into the direction of a relationship pretty quickly... then this past week my ex-boyfriend suddenly decides that he wants to get back together and he can't lose me and wants to say sorry and work things out. i mention this to the new guy and he gets really defensive... i tell him he doesn't have anything to worry about and leave it at that. i got really busy this weekend with friends... i think the new guy assumed that i was hanging out with my ex-boyfriend. saturday night he calls me and tells me he wants to see me... i tell him that i'm out with my buddies, i don't have my car, and we're all too drunk to drive, which was the truth. he offers to come pick me up and i politely tell him i'd rather stay with my friends, nothing personal against him. then he has his buddy call me to tell me they're going to come pick me up and where should they pick me up at... i tell his friend that i'm with my girlfriends and would prefer to stay with them.

then the new guy calls me AGAIN and says "okay... we're coming to get you. where are you at?" i tell him that i don't want to leave and he says "well you told jeff (his friend) that you wanted to leave..." i'm sort of annoyed at this point. i tell the new guy again that i don't want to leave and he starts going off on this drunken ramble about how my ex-boyfriend is completely obsessed with me, how my ex needs to get a grip, and that he's still totally in love with me and that he's psycho and i need to stay away from him. note that my ex and this new guy have NEVER met, do not share the same circle of friends and other than the fact that they're both interested in me, would otherwise be complete strangers. i get kind of pissed and sarcastically ask him if he's been having deep conversations with my ex-boyfriend. he knows that i'm pissed so he switches over to an alternative line of bullshit, saying that he's been talking to a girl that my ex-boyfriend had been cheating on me with... i ask him for names/details and he stumbles around and tells me he can't talk anymore and hangs up. i call him back and he doesn't answer. he TEXTS me (what a pussy...) and says "i like you but you have some shit to sort out before you can get with me...." the kid has some fvcking nerve! we argue via text and a couple phone conversations for the rest of the night...

the guy lied about everything... i understand why he did it... he doesn't want me to get back together with my ex, but it's such a turn-off that he lied and that he's such a clingy motherfvcker... i've know the guy for a whole week and a half.... i don't think it's his place to talk about my ex-boyfriend. it's kind of like, i can call my mom a bitch cause sometimes she is, but if anyone else did i'd be pissed. he's e-mailed me and texted me and called me a couple times yesterday trying to say sorry and wanting to know if i'd be willing to work things out. sorry for the long post but i just wanted to get a guy's opinion on what i should do with this guy.... am i just being a bitch? or is this guy really a waste of time?

 

If the relationship is like this at this early point, where do you think it will be in a year if you keep it up?

We all know the answer to that question.

 

Fvck both of them I say. Especially the new guy. And not in the sexual way.

 

He's too insecure, maybe he has a reason for it.

If he does/did then he should have written you off, not called you and insisted on bringing you to him.

He should have been mature enough to think, it is what it is, and move on.

If he didn't have good reason then he shouldn't have even called you.

Either way it's not a good situation.

I have to ask why did you find it necessary to tell this guy at such an early stage that your ex was after you?

You do realise you need to keep your ex your ex.

He's only doing this now because he knows you're becoming unavailable to him and he wants to keep you in his back pocket.

Bottom line ditch both of them and wait for a more mature person that's even better then these putzes!

Good Luck. Do the right thing, don't hesitate. If you hesitate you're only giving yourself time to convince yourself to do the wrong thing.

 

You should always be "allowed" to interact with ex's, because a mature person wouldn't be inclined to be with someone else if it was even a possibility to cheat on them.

 

NEXT!!!

 

Did you let him hit it already even though you've only known him for a week and a half? My guess is yes...

This is just another example of how women never let go of one branch unless they have ahold of another. Nothing against you personally, but all women try this bullshit with guys and the crazy dude is just stupid and not good at handling women. If you would have pulled something like that with me, I wouldn't have gotten mad. I would've have just told you thanks for the pussy and not ever contacted you again, its that simple. There is no sense playing into these games, it a waste of time an money. If you like a chick, don't even bother unless she is absolutely into you and you know it for sure.

 

It is a true statement, that women tend to roll from one to another with overlap. Some of them are just plain stupid that way. For some reason a lot of them HAVE to have a man.

 

Women are insecure. No matter what sort of front they put up. There are maybe 1 in a 100 that aren't.

 

Drama = bad. If there's this much drama already, I'm sure you would have no trouble finding yourself another guy!