advice needed: relationship issues
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From: CFL
Originally Posted by s2000 x,Sep 11 2006, 02:58 PM
yeah tell me about it lol that screams the last girl I was hanging out with 100%. Met me right after breaking up with her ex and wanted to go right into a realtionship plus she let me hit that 
1.) Girls dumps boyfriend or boyfriend dumps Girl
2.) Girl has residual feelings of wanting to be needed/loneliness
3.) Girls meets guy right away that seems to have the qualities that her ex didn't, but in actuality he is just being nice to her to get laid.
4.) Girl feels slutty after ####ing the rebound guy and realizes that she really doesnt like him that much.
5.) Girl dumps rebound guy and tries to get back with ex.
6.) Repeat cycle.
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From: Eugene, OR
point of clarification: we haven't slept together yet....
and the only reason i mentioned anything about my ex wanting to get back together was because i was really upset about it and he asked me what i was so upset about so i told him... i probably shouldn't have said anything at all... it just made him insecure and weird.
you guys must have had some baaadddd experiences with women... i'm sensing a lot of negative feelings towards the fairer sex haha. kinda acting like i did something wrong... i never mentioned anything about getting back together with my ex, like i said, the new guy assumed i was hanging out with him again when i was spending time with my friends and then got crazy on me. i was only asking if you guys thought it'd be worth it to work things out with this guy... nothing about my ex.
and the only reason i mentioned anything about my ex wanting to get back together was because i was really upset about it and he asked me what i was so upset about so i told him... i probably shouldn't have said anything at all... it just made him insecure and weird.
you guys must have had some baaadddd experiences with women... i'm sensing a lot of negative feelings towards the fairer sex haha. kinda acting like i did something wrong... i never mentioned anything about getting back together with my ex, like i said, the new guy assumed i was hanging out with him again when i was spending time with my friends and then got crazy on me. i was only asking if you guys thought it'd be worth it to work things out with this guy... nothing about my ex.
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From: Dallas, TX
he's the possesive psycho type, if u keep the new guy he will never trust you and always use this against you, no way you're going to convince him that you weren't with your ex. if you do keep the new guy he will cheat on you because he thinks you messed around on him.
you should have never told him about your ex, especially if things were going soo great.
drop both, get your mind right, spend some alone time and be single, i agree with the rest of the guys, don't know what it is with girls and having to be with a guy or relationship. be single, do what you want to do when u want to do it. find things u like to do.
you should have never told him about your ex, especially if things were going soo great.
drop both, get your mind right, spend some alone time and be single, i agree with the rest of the guys, don't know what it is with girls and having to be with a guy or relationship. be single, do what you want to do when u want to do it. find things u like to do.
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the guy is a stalker!
the fact that you talk about your ex with him or that he brings it up in conversation is a sign of insecurity on his part. he has problems, STEER CLEAR of his punk ass IMHO.
besides, you don't look like you would have any trouble finding a match for yourself, you just got to weed out the ones that just want the poontang from you like me. i mean, that was a desperation move to try to keep you from supposedly hanging with your ex, and he busted this move out after only knowing you for a week and a half, such a stalker move. this guy is weakness, pick someone else. imagine you want to hang with your girls and shit and this guy is keeping tabs on you, lame!!!
if it was me, i would just do you, and not mention any ex's to you or i woulda slapped you like rick james and left the scene.
ps. if you are ever in LA, pm me!!! oh and bring your boating friend with you, i want her.
ps. gotrice02 is slowling becoming my idol!!!
the fact that you talk about your ex with him or that he brings it up in conversation is a sign of insecurity on his part. he has problems, STEER CLEAR of his punk ass IMHO.
besides, you don't look like you would have any trouble finding a match for yourself, you just got to weed out the ones that just want the poontang from you like me. i mean, that was a desperation move to try to keep you from supposedly hanging with your ex, and he busted this move out after only knowing you for a week and a half, such a stalker move. this guy is weakness, pick someone else. imagine you want to hang with your girls and shit and this guy is keeping tabs on you, lame!!!
if it was me, i would just do you, and not mention any ex's to you or i woulda slapped you like rick james and left the scene.
ps. if you are ever in LA, pm me!!! oh and bring your boating friend with you, i want her.
ps. gotrice02 is slowling becoming my idol!!!
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From: SJC
Some thoughts:
1. You seem assertive, yet, based on the story you've told us, seem to date guys that run a bit insecure. You may want to start dating guys that have stronger personalities.
2. You state that you find it hard to find men who are smarter than you, yet you live in a town (Eugene) with a University (UofO). Clearly, there's a disconnect there. Get out and do some volunteering. Participate in some groups that have the kind of men you want to meet.
3. Don't be in a serious relationship until you are truly satisfied with yourself. Wait until you are making enough money to support yourself (and are saving for the things you'll want down the line (read: real estate, kid, retirement)). Also, don't committ yourself to being with someone so intensely until you're happy with your educational level AND have a career wherein you're pulling in a steady pay check.
4. You're 20 years old. Think about that in contrast to where you are in terms of item #3. I know very few 20 year olds who have achieved all of their goals in life. Of the few 20 year olds who already have a lot; they tend to just turn around and set their goals higher.
You've got a lot of future ahead of you, no need to slow it down because two boys are getting itchy over you. Just my $.02
1. You seem assertive, yet, based on the story you've told us, seem to date guys that run a bit insecure. You may want to start dating guys that have stronger personalities.
2. You state that you find it hard to find men who are smarter than you, yet you live in a town (Eugene) with a University (UofO). Clearly, there's a disconnect there. Get out and do some volunteering. Participate in some groups that have the kind of men you want to meet.
3. Don't be in a serious relationship until you are truly satisfied with yourself. Wait until you are making enough money to support yourself (and are saving for the things you'll want down the line (read: real estate, kid, retirement)). Also, don't committ yourself to being with someone so intensely until you're happy with your educational level AND have a career wherein you're pulling in a steady pay check.
4. You're 20 years old. Think about that in contrast to where you are in terms of item #3. I know very few 20 year olds who have achieved all of their goals in life. Of the few 20 year olds who already have a lot; they tend to just turn around and set their goals higher.
You've got a lot of future ahead of you, no need to slow it down because two boys are getting itchy over you. Just my $.02
Solves a lot of problems.