you should have not mentioned anything about your ex.

but now that you did, you know more about the new guy than you would have learned in 1+ years.

 

Greatest quote ever!! Going into my sig

 

From a male standpoint, chances are your ex-boyfriend is only calling you again because he hasn't gotten laid since you broke up with him. He doesn't want you back, he wants the kitty back. After a few weeks of sex, he will revert back to his old ways.

The new guy is a complete douchbag with issues. He obviously feels he can't win your heart on his own merits, so he has to bad mouth you ex, who he doesn't even know to try to make himself look better in your eyes. The likely reason he wanted to pick you up from the bar is so that your friends would see him (especially if he knows he is good looking, like you said he is) and they would all tell you how hot and good looking he is, trying to win you that way, i.e. "he is so much hotter than 'insert ex's name here' you should date him", or he was hoping you were out with you ex, and he could then be the macho air-force pilot showing up to get you from the bar, and rub it in your ex's face. Either way, the guy is a loser.

I think the best thing for you to do is take some time and get as far away from the situation as possible. Geographically that would be West Palm Beach, FL. Oh yeah, then we could hang out. Coincidence?

Christian

 

I have to say stay single. Youve been in a relationship with your ex for a long time, for your age. You probably don't know the true feeling of being single. Honestly, in one week... Im not sure if that "lonliness" feeling has hit you yet. Ya ya I know you still have your girlfriends, but its not the same as having a boyfriend, its a different type of "lonliness". I suggest just being single for now, your young...take advantage. Once you get comfortable with being by yourself, then maybe date again... I also agree with 8D in trunk.

I dont like to use guys as rebounds, its not really fair to them. Even though half the time Ive tried to convince myself "its not a rebound"... but then again you may be one of those 1 in a million people that can pack up, walk away, and never have a feeling...

 

x a lot

And rubyrashel makes a good point. At that age all you should be doing is going out and meeting as many people as possible and having fun. Hell I know at 20 all I wanted to do was that. I just went through another one of those phases at 24 but thankfully I found someone to calm me down a bit

 

LOL, nice..

 

This really doesn't apply to me now because I am married but when I was single I would love to be the rebound guy. This scenario was perfect because the sex would come quickly and I would just have to pretend to be interested for 2 weeks or so. Women eventually begin to distance themselves from rebound guys because it just never works out. Its perfect because I could get the goods and I still wouldn't look like the bad guy afterwards because the girl broke it off . Recently dumped bitches, we love you.

 

You're 20! Stop dating all together, don't even bother until you're 25-27.

If you were with you ex for a long time then you MUST stay single for at least 1/3 the time you were together. In general that's the magic number If you date keep it light and have fun but resist the temptation to get serious, because that will just mess you up.

Dump both these guys and under no circumstances even talk or see your Ex.

 

 

gotrice02 hit the nail on the head. That kind of situation is the best cause like he said no possible backlash due to the fact that the girl broke it off lol.



Later.

Mike