It sounds like you are pretty excited about this guy. I wish you two good luck!

Like nHobbes said, keep it low key at work, but let him know you had a good time. If you two don't advertise your relationship, it probably won't be a work problem. Not advertising is different from hiding / denying it.

I have seen a few work relationship mistakes that are avoidable:
-Obvious whirlwind romances. A whirlwind work romance is fine if someone that isn't paying attention to it doesn't notice it.
-Nasty breakups. If is doesn't work out and you two are able to keep it low key at work, it shouldn't be a problem.
-Dates that seem to extend to work. Ga ga eyes at work are asking for trouble.

You might talk about the work side of this next time you see each other outside of work. As long as he doesn't say anything that makes you think it will be a problem, have fun!

 

Well, you read my story on your first thread, so I have to say you need to go for it. Regrets, are the worst thing. My fiancee always tells me if that cat didn't die on my driveway we never would have went out. We never would have met. You have to give the guy credit, he took a chance because he didn't want any regrets now it's up to you to do the same. Sometimes all you need is a push in the right direction.

 

Think of what you'll tell your grandchildren when they ask how you met!!!

It's a very heart-warming story, if Brandon is your friend then you are halfway there already. Take it slow and don't worry about things you have no control over.

BTW, neither one of you is the boss of the other, correct? That would be a problem in an office romance...

 

You're more than welcome. The follow-on bit of advice...once you commit to being in love, run with it. Don't become obsessive, but be committed. You've got to be willing to be hurt to truly experience the joys.

It's all about finding the magic...and it sounds like that first date is a good start!

 

lots of good advice here.

i will add this. i got married to the most wonderful, beautiful woman last month. we were old friends from college and i agonized like hell before going out with her. (long story with lots and lots of history). trust me when i tell you how much worse my life would be today had i not taken that leap of faith.

nothing ventured, nothing gained. take a gamble but be honest to yourself and to this guy. even if it doesn't work out, you won't be saddled with a terrible sense of "what if" 20 years from now.

 

Proceed with Caution Ash... Nice date but sounds like a play to me. Too planned, too smooth, too fast.

Once you cross that friendship/dating line you can't go back so think it over.

 

Interesting and cool story. My take is this. You have known this guy for two years now. On that basis alone, I think, you would have a good start.

The work thing...that used to be a bigger deal than it is now. It's still not good for a person to get involved with a subordinate, but cross-wise relationships are popping up all over the place. I don't think it's an issue, but if it ends in a nasty fight or something.

Speaking personally as a 36 year old single guy not terribly interested in marriage, but especialy in light of Sept. 11th, you never really know what will happen from one minute to the next. I say go for it. Carpe diem. Grab life by the collar and let the chips fall where they may. Regrets are never good and passing up what could be a fantastic relationship doesn't sound wise to me...take it slow and learn about it, but don't deny it out of hand or "just because." Things could all disappear tomorrow...make it count today and go for it.

My 3 cents...

 

I used to agree with this, but my last two girlfriends (rather serious ones...one was 5 1/2 years as my girlfriend) have become two of my closest friends. I think the key is having the friendship before something more starts...then you always have something to fall back on.

Also, those last two relationships were both with co-workers (not both while I was at the same job, though).

 

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I used to agree with this, but my last two girlfriends (rather serious ones...one was 5 1/2 years as my girlfriend) have become two of my closest friends.

 

wow, what a smooth SOB, ahah. Maybe I'll try it some time

Glad it went well!

p.s. Told you that alcohol would help j/k