Every time you think about cheating, go fap first. Then decide if you still want to cheat.

Then, ask yourself if all it takes to change your mind is a little tug-session, is your relationship worth keeping?

 

If your relationship is so fragile that it ends because you have SEX with someone else then your bond with your partner was not strong to begin with....SEX is just that SEX!

 

Ahhhh but not everyone views it that way. In my eyes, sleeping with someone else means that the cheater broke trust, unless they have an open relationship. To say it's 'just sex' minimizes the real betrayal and hurt that people experience when they've been cheated on.

Edit: I've never cheated. Had I looked for the opportunity when I was unhappy in past relationships, I probably could have. I know what it's like to be cheated on and can't imagine doing that to someone, even if I was pretty sure they would never find out.

 

That's the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard, and I have a hard time believing that you seriously feel that way. If you really do, then how would you feel if your SO was out having sex with other people behind your back? Would you be OK with that, since your relationship with your partner is so strong? What if it was unprotected sex, and she brought home some VD? Is that OK, too?

If you have a relationship that you've established as an "open" relationship, and both parties have agreed to that, then that's fine. However, if you're going behind their back and getting sex from someone else, then you're betraying the implied fidelity that goes along with a committed relationship. That pretty much makes you scum.

 

How you conceptualize sex is irrelevant. Cheating by definition implies broken trust, and broken trust is a very very powerful solvent.

 

Meh, I made sure to get all the strange I needed before settling down with 1 girl.

I can understand all the "its just sex" For me it is a respect issue. I think that it is incredibly disrespectful to have a sexual relationship with more than 1 person at a time (unless its at the same time .) The emotional bs is one thing, but the risks involved (pregnancy, diseases) put the one you care about in jeopardy.

Generally I *try* to use the rule "Would I kill someone if they did this to my sister?" It keeps me out of trouble.

 

Every relationship is different... what works for some doesn't work for others...

what some call "cheating" others do not... this is why the would is so colorful because every single one of us is different.

Hmm hypothetically so what if your wife, gf, so, whatever came to you one day and said honey you we been together for so many years and I'm in love with you and love you very much but I just don't feel like making love to you anymore... I mean I still want you to take care of and you take care of me but I really don't want to have intercourse with you or anybody else...if you want to play that's fine but don't tell me about it I don't want to know, don't bring any diseases home... I love you... how would you feel and what would you do considering you are still sexually active and you are still in love with her.... would you just call it quits because of sex with the one your are in love with.... would you j/o for the rest of your life.... or would you go play and have a loving caring wife at home that in a time of true need (sickness, sadness, etc) would be there for you through thick and thin, someone you care about and sleep beside cuddled every night.....

 

hmmm... is she fat and old at this point?

 

LOL whether or not she is fat or old is irrelevent

 

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cheating = doing shit that is dishonest behind your partner's back. ie, im with a chick, i'm dating her exclusively, we're lovey dovey... and i bone some skank i met at a bar. i cheated.

having an open relationship, while it's arguable if that is really healthy or not, is not 'cheating.'