I realize this. I tried to think about all the terrible things about her when I saw her with that dude. I couldnt.

I guess my problem is is that her actions show me that she is over me and not thinking about me what-so-ever. That cuts deep considering the amount of time we have invested in eachother.

I tend to analyze things to pieces and this is driving me nuts.

 

For some reason I am dying to know if she is happy, sad, thinking about me, depressed about it.. Something! Anything.

 

First of all, Sorry to hear about your situation

Secondly, YES, of course she is SAD. I bet she has even contemplated suicide I'm sure she thinks of you 100 times more than you think of her .... That's just how the females mind works. As much as they would like to act that they dont think of it, they do!

You need to be strong, bro Give it a month or two, and maybe she will realize that she needs to fix herself and get her mind straight

Just dont call her, and dont acknowledge her...

Does she know about why you broke up with her 100%? (The laziness, ETC?)

Sorry once again! I am kind of going through the same situation, except I haven't had the break up..........

 

Communicate. It sounds like she needs help. It's not your responsibility to give it to her, but make sure you nudge her in the right direction.


This definitely sounds like clinical depression.

 

Well, the fact that she stormed out of the bar and was hunched over crying means that she is still thinking about you or have some feelings left.

And her going to the bar so often is a way to get YOU out of her mind. Or some people may call it... dying for attention. Especially if both of you have been living together and in a 5.5 year relationship. She isn't able to shake off something that significant in her life.

 

People do crazy things after a breakup. Her going a little wild may not mean that she is over you, more likely she's hurting too and trying to find a way through the pain. Everyone deals with these things differently. If things are too tough for you see a doctor of some sort. You may need help getting over the worst of it.

Good luck.

 

just get a supercharger, and update your info. then, spend an inordinate amount of time on youporn. you'll get over it.

 

What you are going through is normal. The don't try to figure out her actions. The ONLY thing that will work is tincture of time. Until then you'll have all these crazy dizzy thoughts and feelings.

been there, done that. It's sucks, but passes.

 

But what if our relationship was what was causing the depression?

I mean.. that is really the only thing in her life that she would be depressed about...

She got so lazy that she gained 30+ lbs.. Im not trying to make fun of her, but it is just to point out how much she slept/was inactive.

So you are telling me to communicate with her, and all others are telling me to cut ties completely.

It would be absolute hell for me to keep communicating with her on a regular basis considering what I know she is doing at the bar.

 

Ever think that you were the cause of her gaining 30lbs?