Ended a 5.5 year relationship. We were engaged.
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Originally Posted by zdave87,Mar 2 2009, 09:15 PM
So--you kept a relationship going for at least the last year, if not more?
Any issues she's developed can be directly traced back to you.
Any issues she's developed can be directly traced back to you.
Is this all MY fault?
I tried talking things out with her, I kept taking her on dates, I kept doing "the small things" that count.. I put in 110% effort and received nothing back for over a year.
How is this my fault?
Whether she is depressed or not, she bailed on the relationship by not contributing. I just couldnt take it anymore.
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either tell her why you broke it off and give her a chance to do something about it, or decide for good that you're done with her. if you go choice B avoid her, get your closure however you want and forget about her. moving on takes time more than anything else... like everyone else has said.
things not to do:
1. get into another relationship anytime soon
2. drink and/or do drugs heavily
been plenty of good advice in this thread already. take some of it.
either tell her why you broke it off and give her a chance to do something about it, or decide for good that you're done with her. if you go choice B avoid her, get your closure however you want and forget about her. moving on takes time more than anything else... like everyone else has said.
things not to do:
1. get into another relationship anytime soon
2. drink and/or do drugs heavily
been plenty of good advice in this thread already. take some of it.
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Originally Posted by Ted H,Mar 2 2009, 09:20 PM
I guess the question is, did you tell her, before, that you felt that she had bailed on the relationship, and that you wanted to work on it?
I received lackluster results, if any, every time this conversation was brought up.
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Thank you guys for all the advice. I guess I have some hard thinking to do whether or not I try to communicate with her to work things out or to cut ties and if we meet up in the future, so be it.
Thanks again
Thanks again
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beyond what you already talked to her about, don't really know where you're going to go. there is obviously a gap that needs to be bridged, and it doesn't seem like she's willing to meet you.
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Originally Posted by jacqueshammer,Mar 2 2009, 09:36 PM
beyond what you already talked to her about, don't really know where you're going to go. there is obviously a gap that needs to be bridged, and it doesn't seem like she's willing to meet you.
I will need to decide if I want to find out!
