This is not going to be a sob story.

I am 21 years old, surrounded now by people who are telling me that I have done the best thing I will ever have done for myself so far.. Ended an unhealthy, pushing for marriage type of relationship in order to focus on school and save money for a house.

Here is the catch:

I want to meet women that are worth my time. I do not like to waste time. I realize that 99% of 21 year old males are purely focused on "game" and how to bring home the next bar slut. Call me weird, whatever, but I have no interest in bar sluts. I have much interest in women whom I will enjoy spending time with.

So here is my dilemma. Where do I meet these types of women? Over the past 6 years, I have not kept in contact with girls/women/contacts from highschool or really any other women friends I have had because of the relationship I was in.

I have maybe 3 girls I know who may be able to set me up with friends but who knows how that may go.

So what does a guy like me do? Leave it up to fate?

 

Church?

 

Leave it up to fate. It's a lot more fun.

BTW, it's always a game. You may have your particular variants and rules, but it's still a game.

Just meet people. If you're gonna focus on school/career. . . you'll meet plenty of good people along the way.

Yes, leave it up to fate.

Also, if you don't like the bar sluts, you're at the wrong bar.

 

How long ago did you end it?

Already want to jump into another one so soon? 6 years is a long time....

 

that bike should grab some attention

i think internet dating is weird, so i suggest living single for awhile, and if ur friends hook ya up, go with it and test the waters!

but single is more fun and ya don't get the drama. do u go to college or did u graduate? is that johnstown, pa?

it is important to not let the next one close you in, to where you lose contact with any friends, even female. a sweet chik shouldn't care if ur friends with others!

good luck and live on single is my recommendation

~tina~

 

I like looking at bar sluts... of course! I do not like wasting my time trying to bang them and realizing what idiots they are the next day.

I would rather have a real, fulfilling relationship with someone.

I ended it 2 weeks ago. I'm not exactly rushing, its just something I have been thinking about.

I worry that I will never meet someone.

 

[QUOTE=teanza,Jul 7 2009, 11:03 PM] that bike should grab some attention

i think internet dating is weird, so i suggest living single for awhile, and if ur friends hook ya up, go with it and test the waters!

but single is more fun and ya don't get the drama.

 

You can meet smart sluts. It takes effort though.

Not before you're ~25 you don't. You've got school and a career to think of. Chicks are at least third on that list.

No chick wants to have a meaningful relationship with a guy who still needs to purge a lot of bad energy from a previous hell.

Case in point:
At 21, and two weeks out of a 6-year-bender-of-a-"relationship," that's the strong scent of desperation. . . phew.

Be cool. Focus on school, career, and savings. Everything else will start working out on it's own. Including the women-folk.

 

You are right. I feel desperate right now. I admit that.

Thanks for the direction Unkie. Women are down on the list right now, but it is still important to me. It is obviously on my mind because of recent events. I personally do not like and do not find comfort in the unknown. I guess I must learn how to.

 

hey i've realized there are plenty of hot people in this area, so great 4 u!

the vehicles can be a conversation piece though, eh?

and i agree w/8d.......focus on the other stuff! and if ya meet hotties in process, f$%k it; do it live!

~tina~