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Ethical question: Report friend's DUI's?

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Old Aug 10, 2007 | 03:45 PM
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Calling the police will cost her over 10000 dollars if she gets a DUI. I'd tell dad first. If that doesn't do anything then call police.
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Old Aug 10, 2007 | 04:07 PM
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lots of people drive drunk. it NO BIG DEAL...... not.

dui is one of the stupidest, selfish things a person can do. i think the penalty should be death or something so it scares people so badly they dont even think about doing it.

i would try the father first. cops suck.
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Old Aug 10, 2007 | 04:37 PM
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Agree with the posts above.

Driving drunk is stupid, and could end up killing innocent people.
Your friend is irresponsible and needs to grow up. Since it is apparent that she is ignorant to the fact that what she is doing is dangerous and isnt stopping, you should report her.

Another possible option is an intervention with you/her other friends.

Or talk to the parents.

You are just being a good and concerned friend, even though she may not think so, you'd be doing the right thing.
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Old Aug 10, 2007 | 06:02 PM
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Originally Posted by OCMusicJunkie,Aug 10 2007, 01:12 AM
So I have a friend who will NOT stop driving drunk. I've tried talking to her about how stupid it is, how she could end up being arrested, and how her father WILL take away her car (she pays for it, he's on title) if she's caught...

Tonight she called me slurring so badly I could not understand her. Fifteen minutes later she calls me because she crashed her car into the garage at her apartment.

If you know someone is driving drunk 1-2 times a week, would you keep talking to them when they won't listen, or would you actually call in a DUI when you know they are on the road drunk... simply in hope it will scare them straight before someone gets hurt?
Please do the whole society a favor and teach her a lesson before she kills innocent people. Please!!! There is nothing more tragic than to be killed senselessly by a drunk driver and that driver gets a few years in prison.
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Old Aug 10, 2007 | 06:24 PM
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Originally Posted by cyber_x,Aug 10 2007, 07:02 PM
tell her to smoke pot instead, you can drive a lot better stoned than drunk
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Old Aug 10, 2007 | 06:38 PM
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Originally Posted by kumainu,Aug 10 2007, 06:02 PM
Please do the whole society a favor and teach her a lesson before she kills innocent people. Please!!! There is nothing more tragic than to be killed senselessly by a drunk driver and that driver gets a few years in prison.
there is nothing worse than get the police and the court system into this. ya someone could get hurt, best its not you and the people you know. i know this is selfish, just dont give friends and familyy it away.

the courts and prisons are over full. the system is broken.
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Old Aug 10, 2007 | 07:12 PM
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Most likely she will not pay the all the fines...... the parents will end up bailing her out.... so tell the police... it will get everyone involved and THEN the parents will take action.

Sorry.... I have NO sympathy for someone who has been told and continues to think that the world revolves around them.
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Old Aug 11, 2007 | 01:14 AM
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I totally agree with everyone here who says she's being reckless, selfish, and immature.

I told her today that I'm letting her dad know how the damage to her car happened if she does this one more time. That gave her a pretty good scare. I plan on fully following through on the threat.

Just a question for everyone here who is strongly opposed to drunk driving. If you've had 1-2 beers at a restaurant and you can feel a little buzz, but obviously (based on the BAC chart) would be under .08, do you always still say no to driving?

Seeing her has made me so paranoid, I actually won't have more than 1 drink with dinner and drive. This annoys a lot of people, as clearly someone my size wouldn't get a DUI for anything less than 3 drinks.
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Old Aug 11, 2007 | 03:19 AM
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I'm with you OC, I never have more than 1 drink [be it a beer, high-ball or whatever] if I know I'm driving, most of the time I don't drink at all. I'm not the kind of guy who needs alcohol to have fun, but if you do and you know it, how hard is it to plan a ride ahead? I'm 21, and most of my friends are pretty understanding about the way I am. At first they were like "what?! just have a couple of drinks, you'll be fine". But later they realized why I do it and they respect that.

I'm not about to possibly lose my license, car or hurt somebody over a couple of drinks. Where I live, you don't have to be legally over the limit in order for a cop to rape ya up the butt.
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Old Aug 11, 2007 | 03:35 AM
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Angelus, glad to see someone else thinks like me.

The funny part is that I KNOW my ability to drive or act sober is probably pretty solid. My friend's dad was a cop for 25 years, so she knew the DUI drills. When I blew .15 on her dad's device, she said I passed the field tests. However, I know just reacting .1 second slower could mean the difference between life and death in a jam. I'd rather not even risk it... even though I feel confident I wouldn't get a DUI if pulled over. Plus, who enjoys going out and drinking while worrying if they are still ok to drive? If I'm bar hopping, I want to know I can get as drunk as desired without worry.. so I always make sure I have a ride and a backup.
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