Does anybody have any advice on this?

Well, there's this girl I met about two and a half years ago. She is going to be a freshman in HS and me a sophmore. She is my sister's best friend, and is one of my best friends too. I've always liked her a little ever since I met her, but within the last month or so I've grown VERY fond of her. I'm having dreams of her constantly. I can't stop thinking about her- it's making me hard to focus on things. I want to ask her out, but I'm not sure if I should... and I am too nervous too. She is the nicest girl, she is smart, talented, athletic, VERY beautiful, etc.

She, her sister, my sister, and I are a small group of best friends. We see each other about every weekend. I am very comfortable around her, and we have many things in common. I think we would make a pretty good couple.

But, there are troubles. I almost never get any time alone with her because of our sisters, so it's hard for me to show her how I feel. I've also never asked anybody out. When I first met her, I could tell she liked me somewhat. But, back then, I was a nervous little thirteen year-old, and was very intimidated by her, so I never said or showed anything. She doesn't show many signs of affection towards me anymore. I just don't know what to do. She hasn't had a boyfriend ever since she has met me. I don't know if that is a sign, or if she has just decided not to go out with anyone for a while. She will be going to a different school, so I wouldn't be able to see her every day. We might move out near her within a year or two, and I'd be going to the same school as her then. So, being with her now in front of our families would make me kinda uncomfortable.

I just don't know what to do. I'm too nervous to tell her how I feel, and I don't want to screw up our friendship. I really care for her. Can anyone give some advice? I'm so confused right now. PLEASE help!

 

wuss, be a man and just tell her straight up, believe me.. its like this.... if you don't and chicken out.. in the back mind of your head will always be a ... "what if I did...?" dude... just tell her, girls like it when your frank to them about your feelings, besides... I can tell you this.. if you don't.. and later on.. she gets with somebody else.. it'll be even harder on yourself... take a chance... go for it man, good luck and just tell her how you feel. be truthful and if she rejects you... atleast you tried, you can answer to yourself and never have that.. "what if"

oh ya.. another thing.. if your even afraid to go for somebody who you think will be with you or can make you be a better person.... it will hurt your confidence in life later on.... you'll be even scared to do somethings, I'm not telling you to recklessly tell her, you got to think about you want to tell her, HOW to tell her... don't scare her off either.. just call her and say hey... got sometime to chit-chat? got something to ask you, think we can go hang out later on me and you? or something... but remember, be truthful and just try your best, once again, good luck man, tell us how it went

 

I say... just ask her out to a movie or something. what harm can asking do? The worst part, is if you never say anything, and then that question pokes at you forever, "what if?" and that will tear you apeart if you really do like her. And about her being your best friends. even if she says no, you should stay friends. You guys are young and something like this shouldn't greatly affect your relationship. Heck, in some of the best relationships that I know of, bf and gf are best friends first, and lovers second. As long as you keep your cool, be confident and be yourself, you'll do fine. Just my $.02

 

Wow.. we wrote almost the exact same thing.. only I'm a minute late.. monkey! J/k

 

MWAHAHAHHA! beat you to it! hehe, but ya, thats cool that we answered the same.. so do it man! JUST DO IT!!!!

 

Aight, I'll try to sum up the courage... thanks for the advice

 

Well, think of it this way - what's the worst that could happen? I think the agony of wondering "what if" would be worse than if she says no and you take it like a man and keep it cool. Besides, she might say yes, so take the chance!

 

tell us what happens...

 

Do tell us how it turns out.

 

I'll keep ya updated... I probably won't see her until this weekend, so you guys (and mostly me) are gonna hafta wait in suspense