So here's the story...

Back in december I was talking to this one girl for a while and then the company christmas party came about so I asked her to come. The following week, I went out to a lounge and met this amazing/gorgeous girl through this other girl that I know and we kicked it off right away. We only spoke for like 10 min but it was great and we left it at that. So one day I'm on myspace and I happen to see her on there so I wrote her an email to come with me and she called, talked forever, great convo, and she accepted (I just told the other chick that I wasn't going anymore). Long story short... we went, had a great time, and then the next day some dude asked her out that's she's known for sometime and she said yes. So she calls and tells me about it and tells me not to be a stranger to her about it and I wasn't. She stops talking to me instead. So... tonight I went out and she was there. Made eye contact but wasn't going to give her the time of day. She finally comes to me and has the nerve to say... "hey... haven't seen u in a while." Whatever... so I just gave her one word answers and asked her nothing of her life. So then I just turned from her and she stayed there. I looked back at her and she comes in for a kiss on the cheek, which I gave her and another on the other cheek (we're portuguese, we kiss one on each cheek). I left it at that.

So do you guys think I did the right thing by talking back but not giving her much attention? Or should have I just ignored her completely? Maybe talk to her as if nothing happened? Told her to piss off?

What would you guys have done in this situation just in case it ever happens again?

 

Meh it really depends how you want to handle yourself. Personally, I would have still been nice to her. She was upfront about her going out with someone else, it is not like she was trying to be deceitful. Yall only went out once, not like there was any sense of exclusiveness there.

But I'm one that is a firm believer in Karma. Ya gotta shit on me pretty hard to get me to turn a cold shoulder to you.

 

That's cool. I like to hear that. I tried to be as nice as I could but not be too friendly at the same time. Yeah... I know what you mean about we only went out once but the convos we had and the direct hinting of dating was there. And the worst part of it all is that when she told me about the guy she says... "Well if you had asked me out I would have said yes." And I was like... "That's the worst thing you could have possibly told me and there was no way I was going to ask you out after only knowing you for a week. To most people that's just way fast and there was no way of knowing." But you know that's not even the part that gets me mad is that she's the one that said she wanted to stay friends, "not let this make things weird between us or be strangers to each other" as she put it. And hang out still and I was totally fine with it. But then she just stopped talking to me.

It's funny cause my friend said the same thing you said. Just be nice and let karma take action.

 

Thanks for your suggestions Uber-s2k. I appreciate it.

 

 

So I guess I did ok?

 

Personally, if she had some kind of attraction to you at a point, I would go for it. The fact that she still tries to talk to you means that she is still interested and maybe she just wants you to show that you care about her... you know... show some interest. None of us can really understand your situation, but if you feel that you want to be with this girl, then by all means TRY. You never know if you can get the job or not unless you file an application....

 

Damn... you know what... I couldn't have said it any better myself. Now that I think about it, it would make sense, but only now. Cause when this originally happened I did try to keep talking to her in hopes that she would realize her mistake. Yeah... she didn't... lol. But the fact that she did come out of her way to say hello, maybe she was hoping for me to be nice to her and show her what she missed out on... Well... for next time I'll know I suppose. Just not going to give my hopes up.

Thanks YellowS2kPwr

 

Wait... another thought... do you guys think it would be a good idea to call her just out of the blue and be like... it was good seeing u saturday night. Or maybe just like a simple text?

 

If she likes you.....then she'll call you....

Peace
David