Well, you can call her and be like "Hey how's it going... I was wondering if you want to do lunch and maybe a movie on (whatever date here)?" See how she reacts you know. If she says yes... show her a great time, make her laugh, tease her A LOT.

 

[QUOTE=8kGoodENuff,Mar 6 2006, 01:52 AM] Wait... another thought... do you guys think it would be a good idea to call her just out of the blue and be like... it was good seeing u saturday night.

 

if you have to ask this on an automotive board, you need friends

 

friends can only help so much, sometimes you need to talk to people from other areas.

personally she was upfront with you about it. she must care enough about you to not want to lose you for another guy. maybe she is just scared to fall for you. give it time, if its meant to be then it will work out. until then date around man

 

its called 'off topic' for a reason

 

i'd wait six days.

 

Sounds like she just wants a fvck buddy.

 

After reading your intial post it seems that you are taking this situation WAY too seriously.

First off you didn't state your age or this girl your interested in but from reading the post it seems you on the younger side.

You stated that you only went out "had a great time". What does that mean? Doesn't sound to me that you did much more than hang out and have a few laughs and learn about eachother.

What I'm getting at is that you seems to have put your relationship on FF already and have processed this in your mind. Mean while your new friend-girl has not. For all you know she may just think your a nice guy and hasn't considered you as anything serious.

You need to slow your roll and enjoy your time together and capitalize on your opportunities to share conversation. Instead you squander them by trying to give an attitude to show her that you are basically displeased with her behavior. I think you will find that that is more of a turn off than anything.

You should have been cool to her and continued where you left off sharing nice "convo". It's too early in your relationship to playing the jealous role or insecure friend-boy.

Make the most of YOUR time and opportunities and quite worrying about what she's doing with other people. After you have been intimate and she is your girlfriend.... then you can deal with that crap.

Just something to think about.

Tim

 

IMO you could not be more wrong. There are some very intelligent people that troll around s2ki. This person sounds like he might be a little younger, is there something wrong with seeking advice from someone with more experience? I have a very close circle of friends. We have been hanging out since we where all 6-8 years old, and we are now nearing 30 (about 5-6 of us) and there are some things I would rather just not talk to them about.

That being said, I have turned to s2ki for personal advice a few times, and got some great insight into my problem.

 

Since you said it could be helpful... I'm 23 years old and she's 22 years old. Right now I'm sure there's people thinking... "Man, he's old enough to know this whole dating thing", but to tell you the truth, I'm still learning. I started dating a girl back when I was 17 and we ended up dating for 4.5 years. We broke up exactly 2 years ago. For the first year, the dating was slow because we were still hooking up and having our fun, and at the same time I was still hung over her thinking something would happen again. Worst f*cking mistake ever!!!! So last summer is when I started to kick into the whole dating thing again and bit by bit I'm learning what to do and not to do. Going out with the same girl for a while didn't help with the dating around situations, only with the relationship situations, which I'm pretty good at, or at least I think I am.

It's not that I'm taking it seriously, it's just that she made it out to be like... yeah we can still hang out and talk cause you're an awesome guy but then she just ceased all communication. And then for her to come say hi after doing that is like... isn't that awkward to you? She probably should have not said anything. From her doing that it, just puts Gotrice02's perception into place because it makes it seem like she just wants attention because I noticed her bf wasn't giving her the time of day cause all his friends were there.

Not killing myself over this but just wanted to know how to react in a situation like that when she comes to say hi... and from what I see it seems to me that most people would just be nice to leave a welcoming impression cause it is unknown of what could happen in the future. "Don't burn bridges" as my friend would say.