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You'll be listening to that crap for as long as you are together. She should be happy that you get enjoyment from these things. She isn't and won't be. Don't try to change her. Take it as long as you have a mind to, then find someone who likes to see you happy.

Life experience can be helpful, I hate to see a young guy get messed up.

 

Well, I'll give you the married guys opinion.


Women (or at least the ones that I have been with) value "personal" time together. Therefor any time spent sleeping, cooking dinner, watching tv etc don't count. Now, most of us have to work, go to school etc which takes away potential "together time"

So, if you are buying what some would call toys (I think they are VERY necessary) she is thinking to herself "ok. I hardly get to spend time with him now, and he's going to be away more because of these things" She might feel like these toys are cutting in on her territory.

It's not uncommon, but you have to decide if she's good enough to be putting up with this at your age. Personally, my wife was thrilled for me when I bought my S because I'm the only breadwinner and she knows better than to complain. So, if you're treating your girlfriend well in other areas then you shouldn't have to worry about this crap.

 

I have to agree with above.

Living together does not count as time "spent" together. Time together is dating. Dating doesn't end when you move in. Plan dates and activities together just like you would if you were living seperate. The more you do this, the more time you can spend with your own hobbies.

There's a book called "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman that has been invaluable to me and family members I have recommended the book to. I would highly recommend it to you and your girlfriend. I'll leave the summary to Amazon.com, but it seems an excellent fit for this situation, is fairly light reading and I can almost guarantee one of those "ah hah" moments somewhere along the way.

Best wishes to the two of you.

 

at my house: when the sportbike appeared in the garage my wife never said much. when the Irish Setter appeared she never stopped complaining?

 

I think some details might be left out here.

It says you are 18 and are buying all these toys. If you have good means and the money is not a problem and she is complaining, maybe you have a right to be a little put off, but get used to it, it is what women do.

If you are 18, and working like a stiff to just buy toys and put them onto monthly payments when you could be investing in your future through school, or a house or something like that, then she is right and you will (hopefully) grow up at some point and realize you are spending money you don't have on rapidly depreciating crap. There are lots of trailer homes by the side of rural highways with dirtbikes, snomobiles, fishing boats, muscle cars, broken riding mowers etc. in the adjoining yard. Your mission in life is to not be that guy.

But you don't give details so we don't know the whole story. If you like your stuff more than her, than you are wasting your time (and hers) by being together. SHe aint the right one. But if you value her more than the internal combustion engine, then try to limit the toys, maybe get rid of one, and make her a little happier.

My $.02

 

if you want to treat this seriously, you have to think of the possibility of you not being fair to her. women exist on a different plane of reality. their reality to be specific. and while im not well versed in the sociology of your city, it is certainly possible that you moving in with her after 3 years is a sign to her that you will be the guy she'll marry. anything you buy, as others have said above, is a threat to the "nest" she wants to build. you ought to consider this and cut it off before you both get in trouble. it's clear that you aren't ready to be married as it would be quite a surprise at age 18. she might be a totally different story. be fair to her.

btw, how do u afford a S just out of hs?

 

You say your 18 and have been dating this girl for basically 3 years, so since 15? My advice would be to drop her like a bad habit, then take your toys and bang every last piece of ass you can. No need to get tied down so early......and multiply my answer by 10000 if this is the girl who took your virginity

 

No sh*t. You're too young to put up with crap like this. Plenty of time later when you're married. Ditch the girl, enjoy your toys, and all the other girls you can get your hands on.

 

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