Hey fellow s2k members I would just like to get some advice from you guys about my girlfriend and some problems we are having. I am a Senior in high school and my girlfriend is a Junior. We've been going out for almost 6 months and me and her have been doing really well but problems have come up. First off her sister that is back from college really does not like me. She asked around the high school about me and some of her friends that dont even know me tried to find out as much dirt as possible about me. They came up with a list that i slanged, got into a lot of fights, crashed my previous rsx, and that I'm your overall bad kid. Her sister told her mom about all of this and now she is not permitted to call me, be seen with me, let alone still be dating me. Her mom has threatened that if she ever catches me with her that she will send her to Hong Kong to go to school and she is serious. Her sister told me to just let her go and that if I really care about her to just pretend that I've never met her. I feel that this is totally unfair because I treat her really good and we have a really good relationship. I really see myself dating this girl after high school and I really dont know what to do. Most of the dirt that her sister got was from 2 years ago. Since then I have changed and straightened out my life I don't blame her for what she did I understand she needs to look out for her sister. My girlfriend still wants to be do you guys say I just let her go or stay with her and try to work it out because I really do care about her. Any help would be appreciated and thanks.

 

sounds like... you should go tell your gf's parents what you wrote here.
be polite yet honest,
and show them that you are different from what they've heard.

 

Yup, go straight to the parents, sit down and have a chat. I had the same situation with my ex-wifes family but they finally accepted me. Of course after their daughter got heavily into drugs (which I strongly opposed), started hanging out with the wrong crowd, came home drunk every morning at 5 A.M. lost her job because she couldn't stay sober enough to make it to work, cheated on me, and then divorced me when I tried to get her help for the mess she got herself into it of course became all my fault because I was a bad person. But hey, that's the way it goes right?

 

Seung gave you good advice. But in the likely event that her parents don't change their minds, you're pretty much out of options. Whether you like it or not and whether it's fair or not, they are her parents, she's not an adult, and they get to make the rules. You have absolutely no right to undermine their authority. Once she's an adult and on her own, then it's a whole different story...

All that being said, I know it's a lousy answer, but it's true. Good luck! I hope you can change their minds.

 

[QUOTE]Originally posted by jmc1971
[B]Seung gave you good advice. But in the likely event that her parents don't change their minds, you're pretty much out of options. Whether you like it or not and whether it's fair or not, they are her parents, she's not an adult, and they get to make the rules. You have absolutely no right to undermine their authority. Once she's an adult and on her own, then it's a whole different story...

All that being said, I know it's a lousy answer, but it's true.

 

 

I know EXACTLY how you feel. I'm only 20, but from 17-19, i dated a girl that was 2 years younger than me. Her parents didnt' really approve but they thought i was a great guy so they let it go.

I fell in love with this girl long before we were going out and everything was amazing, but as usual, things got a little rough and her parents started to notice that some things were draining her, yet, she was still happy. We talked, and got it figured out and everything was fine again.

However, someone who didn't appreciate our relationship, told her parents that I hit her and that I abused her (such bullshit...if u know me, you'd know that i would never hit anyone, none-the-less a woman!).

Anyhow, they banned us from seeing each other until I did some investigating. I then wrote them a 4 page letter, but only as a back up in case they wouldn't hear me out when i went over to talk with them. I told them that I really cared about their daughter and that I would never do something like that. I told them that there have been some fights lately, but that I am trying my best to make sure that they don't happen again. Then I pointed out some of the reasons that I can't stand not to be around her (DON'T USE SEX AS ONE! ), and they eventually let us start seeing each other again.

I had to swallow my pride, tuck my dick between my legs, and be a man about it. You will get nothing if you don't talk to them, bottom line!

With that being said, I know exactly how you feel and I wish you the best of luck man! I know you don't want to hear it (and i never did or do either) but there are plenty of fish in the sea...

 

Sounds like you and your gf are Chinese (being in Arcadia and all). If you're serious, talk it up with your folks, have your folks visit her folks and explain with you and your gf present. this shows more balls and respect for her parents, and they should respect that too.

 

I BEAT my wife BUT my in-laws love me! It's all about how you keep things behind closed doors. MAC coverup/consealer helps.

The Secret to life is to know what face to put on in front of people. Sitting down with parents is the right thing to do, but if they are Asian...Forget it! The parents had you tagged within the first 30 sec. of meeting you.

Speaking of tagged, I would TAG the older sister because it looks like she needs to "RELAX" and for you to get a "LOAD-OFF"

 

That's happened to me a lot from my past, but if you come straight to people they can see you for what, and who you are cause it always looks and sounds worse on paper and from others. Good luck working this out.