I'm gonna raise the age flag too. You're 23 (per your info posted): most men don't have a clue about who they are or what they wanna do until they're 25, and even then, most men worth their salt aren't gonna sweat a real relationship until they've decided to settle down.

What're you doing trying to get into a relationship so young, and then trying to get into a relationship with a guy who's floatin' around like this?

So, for right now, live it up.

 

Beb, since I don't know you, but only know you from posts on the forum, I think you are pretty cool. I also think you are the type to like bad boys. Usually bad boys are just that.

Of course I could totally be wrong.

 

Well I know this is going to sound pretty stupid but Im pretty mature for my age when it comes to relationships. I dont go in looking for long term - but it just go happened that I fell in love with this guy. He was 26 BTW.

raj - Thanks! And no I dont like bad boys. Of course its a turn on- but I know better. I like guys who are older, nice and GENUINE.

Theres no winning. Bad boys will **** you over and so will nice ones.

 

Fair enough, but (tying in both my statement and Raj's),

1. Would you consider his whole situation (career, personal outlook) stable?

2. Are you attracted to that kind of stability (don't have to answer this one, just think about it)?

 

1. He was stable until we broke up. After we did he left the Army... and now I dont know what he does.

2. I do like stability because I am a creature of habit. I like anything and everything to be stable in my life as well as a boyfriends.

Haha that sounds kinda weird huh.

Iono. I feel so pathetic.

 

This rejection phase hurts pretty bad, but it will pass. Here's my take, you guys were having problems and you decided to date another guy. From a man's point-of-view, that act typically ends the relationship because after that happens the man in the relationship thinks of nothing else other then you getting railed by another dude. Also, men are not very faithful by nature and if a relationship isnt going well we tend to drift away from it. Once a relationship goes sour it is pretty tough to get it back to where it was. Most people are just not willing to work it out.

 

I agree gotrice - but even after I dated the dude he wanted to work things out. So I just dont know....

Thats not when the relationship ended............. cause we didnt really have one now, did we? You cant call the deceit and lies a ****ing relationship.

 

Time heals all wounds

 

22 years old is 22 years old. Within the past year I dated girls who were 20, 23, 25, and 27 respectively. There was a noticeable difference in maturity levels due to age. Take these next two years or so to really grow and find out what you want in a person and don't settle.

I know it sucks, but you have plenty of time to get back on the horse, so ride 'em cowgirl.

 

22 is 22. But all the guys I date are older............. and usually not much more mature. lol.

Maturity is based on a person not their age.

Yeah, I think Ill take a loooong time away from boys. I need to learn more about myself - like why I chose to turn a blind eye towards our issues...