That is so wrong. If you do end up friends with her and then you ask her out, she will immediately (and probably correctly) wonder if you haven't just been faking your friendship in order to get some action. It just never works -- believe me, been there and done that.

I'd say you should let her know immediately that you are interested, but that if she's not ready then you're willing to wait a while.

And oh yeah, watch your back is right. This has the making of a classic "ex-boyfriend shoots new boyfriend" headline.

 

Ya... I call that the I LOV U factor.

If its too easy, the girl won't be interested. You gotta make her work for it just as much as you are. Otherwise she'll think she's got you and doesn't have to make an effort. Eventually she'll move on to someone else.

Heh, women would be happier if men hadn't learned this stuff... course there's plenty out there that go full tilt and shoot themselves in the foot while they are at it.

Ya, I know all about the "exlover kills new boyfriend". A guy I worked with and was friends with, was murdered in 2000 by his girlfiends Ex. Paul didn't deserve that.

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/uk/727799.stm

If you want to know where the murderer is now

http://www.friendsbeyondthewall.com/ppbtw/...gory_12582.html

 

why wait longer than a day? Just say, "I've been waiting for you two to break up, so I could ask you out." What is she gonna say, worse than "no"? She'll feel vindicated for breaking up, and if she gets all weird, you'll know looks aren't everything And she might already have another boyfriend, which spurred the break-up i the first place. No sense sitting on your hands waiting for "the right time," it'll never come. Make "the right time" now.

 

i'd say 5 hours min 2 hours if she has a sister

 

Ya, I've pretty much decided that if she's working monday I'm asking her out. She way to damn hot to leave available.

And I know for a fact that she's not seeing anyone else... She told me.

Ya, I know. When they start throwing hints like that round just take it as a sign and ask... I know I know.

I don't really want to be the rebound guy though. And I can guarantee if I date this girl, the first time her Ex tries anything it'll be the last time. Its damn hard to cause much trouble with two broken arms.

 

grasshopper, I have a couple hints for ya:

#1 -- a "bad boy" doesn't post a poll asking how long he should wait to ask a girl out. c'mon man. man up. take a look in the mirror and know that you are what this girl f*ckin needs.

which leads to...
#2 -- you forgot to include on your poll "right f*ckin now"

ask her out right f*ckin now. she might say "I just broke up with my bf, blah blah..."

ignore that shit, and tell her like it is: you think she's cute as hell and want to go out and have a good time. do not even get sucked into commenting on the ex. he's yesterday's news and you just plain don't give a f*ck, right? oh, and don't forget to smile.

if she says she needs a bit of time... fine... dis-a-f*ckin-pear for a week. she'll think about you. and will that much sooner forget about what's-his-name.

next time you see her, just be cool... maybe make eye contact and smile... play it cool... then, when you've got a chance to talk to her alone... ask her out again. and once again, don't forget to smile. sorry, but you just don't really give a shit about that other guy... he's old news... and you want her. period. it takes balls-- you gotta have em, and she's gotta know it.

would a silverback gorilla f*ckin wait around for a female to get over the death of some other silverback?! f*ck no man.

would a male lion give a hot shit? only if it was after he consumed the carcass of the last male lion who thought he was the baddest lion on the plain.

are you an alpha male? are you a bad boy? are you man enough? then step the f*ck up and ask her out. otherwise, step aside because a guy with balls will step the f*ck up and steal her away... while you're at home still tabulating the results of your poll.

don't mean to be harsh, but hey... go f*ckin get that girl. take it from a guy who has won the heart of a damn fine girl who has been straight up crazy about me for goin on 2 years...

 

here's the poll you should've posted:

a) now
b) never

 

x1,000,000

Just too lazy to post all that.

 

Yeah Tritium basically summed it all up for you there bud.

Once you date a girl for awhile and then she really f*cks up your life somehow and you end up breaking up, you learn to just not really care about asking them out. You gotta get hurt bad once to build up the wall against rejection.

If she says no, well f*ck her then, you know what shes missing out on. You gotta move on and get on someone else, you cant hang on some girl who doesnt want you and let all kinds of other opportunities pass you by.

best of luck bud
-Dustin

 

with Tritum pie.

The early bird gets the worm errr pu$$y in this case.