Introducing a Girl To Your Friend... Advice?
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Originally Posted by trainwreck,Aug 2 2007, 12:52 PM
go to the gym and take some karate lessons. then beat him up once and for all, if he wants to be immature about it. additionally, u can tell him to stop gettin drunk off haterade and quit eating hatertots for breakfast.
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PDX,
agreed. however, if this guy is a good friend of Ev's, then IMHO, Ev should back off. although all is fair in love and war, bros do come before hoes.
Ev passed her on to a friend, who laid his "claim" w/ Ev's full blessing. if this guy is someone who is more of an acquantaince, then throw that all out the window and get the girl. 
i don't think its a matter of Ev's ability to get the girl, its more about loyalties.
Ev, what's your opinion on this? what do you think is best?
agreed. however, if this guy is a good friend of Ev's, then IMHO, Ev should back off. although all is fair in love and war, bros do come before hoes.
Ev passed her on to a friend, who laid his "claim" w/ Ev's full blessing. if this guy is someone who is more of an acquantaince, then throw that all out the window and get the girl. i don't think its a matter of Ev's ability to get the girl, its more about loyalties.Ev, what's your opinion on this? what do you think is best?
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I was under the impression this was more of an acquaintance "a car meet friend".... if it's a good friend, confront the girl, tell her you value the friendship and see what her stance is... nobody can be too upset with that outcome one way or the other... ?? thoughts?
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Originally Posted by PDX S2000,Aug 2 2007, 02:37 PM
eh... game on.
You shouldn't feel guilty about anything.
You shouldn't feel guilty about anything.
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Originally Posted by 8D_All_Up_In_This
FFS, nobody pages me in on these things until it's too late.
1. WSB is right. He had a window. He should've closed within 3 meetings, and then either kept her, or kicked her to the curb.
2. It wouldn't be a problem if your guy friends would simply maintain a "Bros-B4-Hoes" rule. Many girls are too competitive and catty to be trusted, and what's worse, us boys play right into it; rather than seeing the facts for what they are.
3. Andrew and Jen have got it. This situation is wayyy past F_cked. You need to have a sit down.
4. If you're more worried about saving face and telling the story right than being truly supportive of your friend(s), you will always be construed as a jerk. What's more important, your perceived reputation, or the actual success and happiness of your friends?
1. WSB is right. He had a window. He should've closed within 3 meetings, and then either kept her, or kicked her to the curb.
2. It wouldn't be a problem if your guy friends would simply maintain a "Bros-B4-Hoes" rule. Many girls are too competitive and catty to be trusted, and what's worse, us boys play right into it; rather than seeing the facts for what they are.
3. Andrew and Jen have got it. This situation is wayyy past F_cked. You need to have a sit down.
4. If you're more worried about saving face and telling the story right than being truly supportive of your friend(s), you will always be construed as a jerk. What's more important, your perceived reputation, or the actual success and happiness of your friends?
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Bro's before Ho's
From what you are saying I feel you are in the clear.
I had a similar situation. One of my best friends got married. They'd have get togethers at their place and his wife's friends would come. One of my buddies liked one of her friends. He kind of 'called her' so I backed off. Nothing materialized. We had a few more get togethers like that within 2 years. Finally she started hitting on me. She was smoking hot and he had 2 years to close the deal. So finally I reciprocated. He was pissed at me, but got over it. She and I dated for a while and had a great tiem and broke up on good terms later.
What I'm saying with that is that he should know that he couldn't close the deal, so he's in the friend zone and you are in. Get over himself.
From what you are saying I feel you are in the clear.
I had a similar situation. One of my best friends got married. They'd have get togethers at their place and his wife's friends would come. One of my buddies liked one of her friends. He kind of 'called her' so I backed off. Nothing materialized. We had a few more get togethers like that within 2 years. Finally she started hitting on me. She was smoking hot and he had 2 years to close the deal. So finally I reciprocated. He was pissed at me, but got over it. She and I dated for a while and had a great tiem and broke up on good terms later.
What I'm saying with that is that he should know that he couldn't close the deal, so he's in the friend zone and you are in. Get over himself.
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Sorry dude.... what you did was wrong IMO.
The reason is that you didn't let your friend know that you were still hanging out with her after you already introduced her to him under the understanding that you were doing him a favor.
The issue that needs to be brought up is why are you spending time with her and not your friend? Is it because you live closer? work with her etc...
Human nature is that when your friend took interest.....So did you.... and so did the competition.
Answer those questions and you will see that although your initial intensions may have been good..... that does not justify your follow on actions because they do NOT support your initial good intentions. You come off like a "jerk" in other peoples eyes.
You wanted an honest opinion.... I'm not going to give you the "so what" it's the girls choice. Yeah...it's all good that you like each other now... but the point is how you got there that is shady at best.
Tim
The reason is that you didn't let your friend know that you were still hanging out with her after you already introduced her to him under the understanding that you were doing him a favor.
The issue that needs to be brought up is why are you spending time with her and not your friend? Is it because you live closer? work with her etc...
Human nature is that when your friend took interest.....So did you.... and so did the competition.
Answer those questions and you will see that although your initial intensions may have been good..... that does not justify your follow on actions because they do NOT support your initial good intentions. You come off like a "jerk" in other peoples eyes.
You wanted an honest opinion.... I'm not going to give you the "so what" it's the girls choice. Yeah...it's all good that you like each other now... but the point is how you got there that is shady at best.
Tim