I've always agreed with Tim's answers.Tim always seems to see the truth in things.

 

Tim, I'm happy with what you wrote and what I'm about to say is no different from what I wrote 8D. I'm happy to read what you wrote for it's a true friend that'll tell you the truth and sometimes it may be things that you don't want to hear. I left out a few details which I'm not sure if it'll change your perception... I was friends with this girl for over 2.5 years. From my breaking off with my cheating ex, this girl and I became closer friends. I brought her to the meet in Dec., set her up with my friend in Feb. I was still friends with this girl and nothing happened between us. I knew she was not with the car guy and things developed in May-June. Anyway if I still appear to be the jerk in this situation then really I don't know what else to do. I've also decided tonight to just cool things off with the girl. I'm going to just let her decide what she wants. I don't need the drama nor does my friend. Hey, plenty more fish in the sea eh?

 

Ev,


I'm not sure how you grew up, but from my understanding you do not date a girl your buddy has an interest in....ever. If you liked this girl, then you should've made the move first.



David

 

Dave,

I understand what you're saying but she was a friend of mine first. I know where you're coming from and I respect that. Again I never planned to have this happen and it was me who introduced the two of them first! Anyway I know it doesn't matter to you.

Ev

 

Don't start drama by cooling things off... that is a mute point and will only make you look wishy washy. You two are together... for what ever reasons....and that's all good.

The mistake that you made was introducing her to your friend before you were sure about how you felt about her yourself. Which is what you need to really ask yourself. Is she really all that? Is she a rebound from your K girlfriend? Are you interested because someone else found her interesting? You have know her for along time...and nothing came about...now lately you found interest.

If you knew she liked you all along....and you were taken by the K girlfriend, then you are preying on the weak and going with the sure thing. Which in the long run.....will mean you don't stay with her and you will have lost 2 friends.

If your really interested... then apologize to your friend for the misunderstanding and the way things worked out in that it made you look bad. The choice is ultimately hers... but be careful that she is not just using both of you for the attention. Where she was once second fiddle....now she has 2 guys interested.

Just a thought.

 

Thanks Tim. You are indeed very wise. I didn't sleep the whole night to tell you the truth and decided to end things with her having learned more details. I admit this was ultimately my own doing. Thank you for your honesty.