I was the at home mom, and haven't worked since my first was born, although I have a B.S. in Physics. I loved being the housewife and mom. My youngest will be 19 in August. That job is over when he moves out for college.

 

Update: Stick a fork in it.

So this week I started the whole sending flowers to her job in a anonymous fashion (or so I thought) with a post card with one word... "IT". So I called the florist and gave them all the information they needed except the number of her job cause I didn't have it. So instead, the lady asks for a number to contact ME just in case they couldn't find the place... ok... so I did. So I'm at work, all excited and I get a call from her (I don't pick up). Then she sends a text saying... Why did you send me flowers? I was like Oh SH*T!!! I deny of course not knowing that the stupid lady put my cell phone number on the post card with the flowers!!!! How stupid could someone really be? So then I call the florist and all the lady said was... "Well you were planning on telling her eventually right?" I swear... I wanted to donkey punch the lady so bad... so heated!!!!

So I did it again the next day with the same post card but with the word... "IS". So she called again... she knew it was a me though cause you couldn't get anymore obvious than that and I'm just a bad bad liar and couldn't cover it up anymore. So I call her back after work, still denying it and she says... if I find out it's you, I'm going to be so mad and she hangs up. So I sent her text saying that I didn't think she would get so mad about it and she was determined to know what the rest of the message was going to be... so I told her.

It was going to be a 2 week process with one word per day...
Week 1: "It is you I want"
Week 2: "I Love You #####"
And on the friday of the second week I was going to send her a huge bouquet of her favorite flowers (Hibiscus... Hawaiian Flower) with a long, personal letter expressing myself to her. And after explaining everything, she said... I just saved you a lot of money and I don't want to be with you.

She just got more heated from our texts back and forth and she calls me to leave her alone, but like yelling, and started saying... you should have thought about things before dumping me twice and hung up. I didn't even have a chance to talk.

Now I know it's just time to move on... even though I don't want to... I just want her.

Thanks for all the advice though guys... I really do appreciate it!!!!
Andre

 

Bummer, Andre. Sounds like you're a real romantic guy.

 

I figured maybe she thought they were from the IT Department at her work.

 

I try my best... especially for someone I really want to be with. It's hard for me to let someone in and engrave themselves in my heart... but when they do... I'd do anything for them. I should have waited a little longer to break it off, but at the time, I didn't see any of this coming.

Andre

 

Nah... she took it as a word cause she said... "They wrote the word IT on it"... lol. At the time, I couldn't stop laughing.

Oh... then that day... after work I was outside on my front steps resting from a long bike ride and she drove in front of my house (which she never does), all smiley, and says... You didn't send those flowers did you? And I said no of course and she called me liar in a laughing manner and continued on her way cause she said she had to drop off her brother's wallet at his gf's house. So at the time, I thought she accepting the fact that it could be possibly happening.

Andre

 

Any possibility she'll change her heart with a little time?

 

Eh... doubt it. She's a tough girl that's been through many break ups. Only by some miracle but I don't think so. When her mind is set on something, she sticks to it and right now her ego is probably through the roof with me trying to get back with her twice now. Only time will tell I suppose but I know not to wait.

Even my friend said that the wound is still fresh, so he didn't expect anything to really happen. He said you never know... maybe sometime in the future things could happen but to move on in the meantime.

Andre

 

Call me the new-and-improved Unkie Trunkie, but here's the deal:

Your lesson, as I see it, is to be as excellent as you can be, always. This does not waiver whether you are with this girl, the next girl, or 17,000 girls down the road.

Excellence is a choice. Living well is always the best revenge, and the best way to find someone excellent (as excellence often seeks it's own level).

HOWEVER, one key to excellence is not being a fool.

9 bouquets of flowers x ~$35 a bouquet (and I find that conservative) = $315.
$315 you could've spent on books towards better interpersonal communication.
$315 you could've spent on therapy. Therapy to make yourself better and to have gained some insight into yourself, thus bringing a better you to the situation.
$315 to invest in a sound future for you, or for that matter, the two of you, if it had worked out.

. . . the list is never ending. I'm not saying that you should NEVER buy flowers for a lady. But, you're rewarding rejection (IMHO). You were betting $315 on a prospect that had 2 strikes against it.

Like Kyra said, you're a romantic guy. No crime in that. However, you don't have to be a romantic fool. You can be a romantic hero; wise, powerful and present.

. . . and in the meantime, you can also be a degenerate perv like me.

 

I think a lot of people love slot machines.