I've notice that there is an increasing amount of my friends are moving in with their significant other. That being said, I was wondering, how many people belive it's a good idea to live with your bf/gf? Please state the reason why you feel if it's a good idea or bad idea. Also, if you live with someone already, why did you choose to move in with them and who asked whom?

 

I'll be honest, I have never lived with any significant other. My school of thought is, I believe living with someone is a good idea, especially if you intend for the relationship to continue for sometime (ie marriage). I would hate to find out after I married my girlfriend that I can't handle living with her. It may be a bit too much exposure, but at least you will find out if its going to work in the long run. A good buddy of mine lived with his girlfriend before they were married, and they are doing very well. On the other hand, another old friend of mine is having some tough times with his wife, and they never lived together. I don't think they spent the night at each others homes much at all either. Now she is discovering how controling he can be, and he is finding out how much of a free spirit she is.

 

I am about to close on a house with my GF in April. We decided to live together before marriage for economic reasons only. Rates are low and it is better than renting. Of course I am looking for rings to make it offical right now. Our parents aren't thrilled, but the ecomincs speak for themselves.

 

It is a good idea and a smart move since it is the only way to be sure.

 

Very good idea if you want to get serious w/the girl and you see the relationship going the long-haul. It's important to see what your sig'other's living habits are and if you can deal w/them on a daily basis.

Now a days, men and women are so independant that when you put them in the same space, they're so used to having their way they don't know how to compromise.

 

[QUOTE]Originally posted by 3fiddyZ
I'll be honest, I have never lived with any significant other.

 

Bad idea, save it for marrige. I did that and all it does is cause trouble. You need your space.

Sam

 

That about sums it all up!!

 

Something to consider is that two unmarried people who split up may have a rather difficult time sorting out assets--especially when a house is involved and the purchase wasn't handled correctly. Large purchases made on credit also tend to cause problems.

In most places, unmarried people have absolutely no legal standing if their gf or bf is injured or killed. Without the proper documents medical professionals will not deal with you. Depending on where you live, if you own a home with your SO and they die, his or her interest in the house will likely pass to someone in his/her family and not to you. If your SO is incapacitated and needs a conservator for their assets, it probably won't be you and you could lose the use of a home or lose the extra money needed to pay bills.

Sometimes there are benefits to being married. For any of you who don't wish to marry but are in a long-term "serious" relationship, you may want to consider ways to protect yourself in the event your SO is sick or killed.

 

I did it for about 6 years, got married a couple years ago.. and it was a non-transition...