Sorry to hear about what happened. You went through a lot of trouble to ask her to propose. At least it's better that you found out about things now than after. A friend of mine that was engaged also just called it off. Damn, must be something in the air

Good luck.

 

Before I even proposed to her, Religion reared it's ugly head...She said "I need to accept you for who you are" and I was cool with it...She said "I realize there's a very slim chance you'll become mormon, and even slimmer chance of us getting sealed in the temple". So I thought she was OK with the whole religion thing...Now it's just soo important for me to become mormon and be with her 100% in church by her side. I told her that I can't promise anything, she's asking me to be someone who I'm not. Alot of people say I'd be miserable if I did give in.

It's just tough....

I didn't talk to her on Monday, and on Tuesday she called me 3 times in 5 minutes (ala psychoexgirlfriend.com)..once at my work phone, and twice on my celphone. I ignored all three calls...I did not want to talk to her...She sends me an email later that day something to the tune of "I'm probably the last person you want to hear from but I'd like to know if you're OK"

So I reply with an email "Everytime I think of you I start to cry. I'm seriously hurt. But I'm going to be OK I hope."

She then sends me an email shortly before lunch today saying something along the lines of "I guess we should have talked this over before I made the decision to break it off. I'm starting to think that breaking up wasn't such a good idea...."

I'm basically going to send her an email of mass proportions, telling her how much she's hurt me inside, how I feel, and what I think of the whole situation. Most of the reason of this email is to tell her to grow up, not listen to what her parents think (she lives with her parents right now BTW), and that we're through...

a friend of mine said that I may not want to burn all the bridges....but I'm thinking that I should.

I'm starting to be in the mindset that the ONLY way I'd accept her back in my life is that if she gave up these mormon beliefs (basically that religion is the glue in a relationship, which I believe it is NOT so) and her total dependency on her parents. I don't like her parents and her parents don't like me...her mom has never looked me in the eyes and held any kind of conversation with me.

Sorry...I'm just venting...this is all just a load of crap....

Here I was, being totally honest, true, and trusting. Ready to take on responsibilities, and she basically says "I need a man to be in church with me every sunday, and you won't be there with me, so we're breaking up"...

just a messed up world... *sigh* thanks for reading the "abbreviated" version of my sob story!

 

Well congrats my friend, I hope that your marriage last forever. Best wishes to you both.

Jerry

 

Read the whole thread there, junior.

 

[QUOTE]Originally posted by Aft3rburn
[B]...I got down on one knee in front of her, say a little something, and ask her to marry me. She puts her fingers to her lips and gets teary-eyed and says yes. I give her the box with the ring in it, lean forward to kiss her and I hear this

 

It may have been a sign. But more likely it was an automatic timer

 

That was awesome... congrads!