so i got hooked up on a blind date with this chick about a week ago...shes really cool and we have seen each other a couple times now. things are progressing nicely...EXCEPT she wants me to meet her ex boyfriend (no particular time frame...just mentioned that she would like me to meet him)

to preface..he apparently was some sort of underwear model but based on the pictures i saw well...who knows where he actually got published...(maybe some sort of kmart ad in a foreign country). she openly admits she isnt quite over him and he is important part of her life (usual BS from girls) but insists to the nth degree she does not want to get back together..

im in a similar boat so i can understand that and i believe her..but i have no interest in meeting this underwear modeling douche...i really dont give a shite about him but i dont want to piss her off too much...for some reason its bothering me...would you guys go along with this....the girl is really cool, seems legit, and so on and so forth. i dont want to f this up on a stupid argument.

 

This girl is smart, she already has a built in rationalization and reason for dumping you when she does. At least she was up front and told you that she still loves her ex-boyfriend. All I can say is dont get too involved, try to get some and when the well drys up, ditch her. Some chicks are less honest about these types of things, so at least she us up front. Don't be a fool though, at this point she is taken and if she isnt working overtime to win you over, its a lost cause.

 

print this out and show it to her.

 

The wrong but funny way to deal with this is to be drunk, high, or both but if she is going to be happy with you meeting him then just say phuck it and do it

 

Run. Run quickly. Run far. She's playing games.

"Wants (you) to meet her ex-bf" - AKA wants a direct sizing up between you and her ex to see who she thinks is better. No win here.

"Isn't quite over him" - AKA You're probably just filler until she can get him to come around again. No win here.

If this girl really is the female, non-divine equivalent of Jesus Christ then ask her one, blunt question. "Why?"

I hope I wasn't too harsh but good luck.

 

brilliant. Women always tell you want you need to know, you just have to listen to them.

 

she is working overtime though. not too affectionate..but at the same time just enough...they have been broken up for more than a few months

 

Dangling the carrot and saying she still isn't over him after more than a few months are clear warning signs to me that she's playing both sides of the equation. I wouldn't give her the satisfaction of your attention.

 

 

not going to end up good, just get the job done and move on.