So lately Ive been having dreams about my ex girlfriend.

I dated her for like a year. Ive known her since 4th grade. Im 19 now and currently with my gf for over 3 years. Living together for 2yrs here in Pittsburgh.

Anyways,

I dated a couple girls in between the ex thats on my mind and the girl Im with right now. I never liked any of them as much as I liked my ex. I ran into her in my hometown last winter and we exchanged numbers. She ended up calling me a couple times and me to her. I find out that shes been single and shes still cool as ever.

Shes into cars, Shes into bikes, shes into outdoors stuff but still just hot as hell.

Current gf:
Hates the money I put into cars, hates bikes, cant wait to get that next handbag!! The closest I can get her to outdoors is riding on a rails to trail on a mountain bike with me..

I have always always been in love with my ex. No matter who Im with, shes always been in the back of my mind. I know its not the same for her but.. well always be friends.

I keep dreaming about her and thinking about calling her. Shes since moved to Miami to go to school with her sister. Im justifying more and more everyday just calling her and telling her I want to come visit.

I cant bring myself to breakup with my current gf. We have 2 cats, a dog, accounts, a creditcard together.. Man. I just cant imagine that hell. It would be an awkward 2 hour drive from PGH to our hometown. Ugh..

What can I do to stop myself from trying to get back with my ex??
I cant say that Im happy with the girl that Im with.. Its like a preview of marriage. My college buddies are going and doing illegal stuff and Im not allowed! She doesnt have a car so Im always carting her around! To and fro work!

On top of that, its the same all the time. Everything. Her, sex, attitude, looks.. My gf looks amazing. Shes truely beautiful and I love her but sometimes its hard to keep it together. Especially me being 19 and her 21..

I feel like Im rambling now..

What should I do??

-Dustin

I apologize for another relationship thread but my college guys say "hey, just tell the bitch to get out! Then take a few shots and bang some other chick!" I wish it were that easy..

EDIT:::: IM SORRY MODS!!! I THOUGHT I WAS IN O.T.!!!!!! PLZ MOVE THIS!!

 

Wow. This is a great post. I am sure alot of people will chime in here. It seems like you will always have a special place in your heart for your ex-girlfriend. It is hard to say what the future will bring, but if she is going to school out of state then a long-distance relationship type deal might not be the healthiest thing. I mean if you were going to school in Miami or LA there would probably be alot attractive girls around you, catching your eye. See what I mean? Plus, keep in mind that you can still see your ex-girlfriend on holdiay breaks, summer break, etc., sometimes.

As for the current girlfriend, well I wouldnt throw her away unless you just dont like her anymore. Either way I wouldnt worry. I used to worry about the same stuff, but I am 29 now and have met so many amazing and interesting women since 19. Just have fun dating different ones, is my best advice.

 

Follow your heart...<---Yes, it's very shallow, but it works most of the time. The hardest decision and the most difficult thing to do are usually the same thing.

 

you are stupid to be sharing pets, bank accounts, and credit car with a girl that you are not 100% head over heals for...not to mention you're only 19 and in college, with makes it a super stupid move.

my impression is that you are not 100% happy with your current gf. thus my advice is to break up your current gf, and divide up your joint possessions as best as you can. even if you have to leave her sole custody of the pets, it's well worth it. after that, just go out with different girls and enjoy your youth while you still have it. also, focus on your school, and you career, and worry about serious relationships when you are really ready and willing to settle down. at the age of 19, there are so many things to do and experience that being tied down in a serious relationship is really the last thing you want to be doing...especially one wherey you're not 100% happy in.

 

cheat that way no one gets hurt


just kidding... you have to do what you have to do in this case no one can tell you just remember you're still young and that lady you're with seems like i'd leave her if i was that bored already

 

yea i'd have to agree VERY STUPID move



which leaves me to conclude you'll end up doing the wrong thing no matter what we say

 

um, my advice is don't follow your heart. you have a brain use it. Be logical. She's in miami, long distance relationship at 19. I can bet you money you won't marry either of them. Get out and be single. You probably won't take the advice but I think its the best. So you want to go have a fling down here in miami for spring break, sure. It would hurt a lot more if your ex didn't acknowledge you.

 

is it still considered cheating if you have sex with a girl that you've already have sex with before??

 

Let me tell you something.Grow up!! you broke up with the EX for a reason...remember IT!!

 

dude, YOU grow up. people change.