if i truly loved her, i'd do it!! better to breakup with current gf(who u dont seem to get along with) sooner then later. somethings just dont work, and dont let things like money/belongings stop ya. you dont want to end up cheating on your say wife later on b/c u love soem1 else (assume if u get married in future).

just what i think i would do if i were in your positions. GL

 

Regardless of what we say you're going to do what you want to do.

I personally try to avoid "what if" situations, at least when it comes to relationships.

Even the most logical and reasonable person takes chances and lives his or her life. Sometimes you just have to be irrational or at the very least experience something even though it might be the "wrong" something.


On the issue of change, sometimes people have certain traits they change, most times they don't. And I know that I may have the power to suggest change but I certainly can't change someone.

I take a look around at work and I see people about to retire and they have some hardcore beliefs that no one could shake; time has only solidifed their beliefs. But I'm sure that somethings have changed about them. However most people I've met had one or two experiences in their life that did change them but those events are few and far between.

Sure we may evolve somewhat, but I think that a majority of people need their "core"; a foundation by which their other beliefs revolve around. And for most people that "core" ain't changing unless something big happens.


To the OP good luck on your situtation, I hope it all works out.

 

Why did you break up with the ex? Was it just that the two of you were real young and couldn't dedicate enough time for each other?

If that's the case, then there's no harm in going back together. If however your breakup was messy, it'll probably happen again.

Sounds to me like you're not 100% happy with your current GF. I have a feeling (from the way you wrote it), that the gnawing feeling at the back of your head will just get worse and you'll end up splitting.

 

go with the one who's better in bed.

 

A little harsh, but unfortunately true.

 

^ ditto to that.

Also with the remark about people taking chances and living their lives even though it was the "wrong" relationship - I'm one of them. While parts of it sucked, I wouldn't take it back as I learned a lot about myself, made great friends, gained valuable work experience and completely fell in love with where I moved to in the process. The learned a lot about myself part was most valuable imho, as I really learned what I not only wanted, but NEEDED in a potential partner.

I say follow your gut, from the sounds of it your gut is saying "this won't last" and you're trying to push past that. I'm not saying my experience is the rule, but my gut said "this will be a few yrs long, then end and we'll both move on" - even though I fought that like hell and tried to overlook it (for years) - when it came time to actually do it (in my case pick up and move countries and get married) - I couldn't do it, I knew my gut instinct was right.

Good luck to you with whatever happens, either way there's going to be a bit of pain involved.

100% agreement with Saki tho, quit sharing financial stuff NOW, even if the relationship continues.

 

stay away from long-term relationships as long as you can. If you are a man, you will ditch the bitch.

 

You are way too young to be tied down. Relationships that work at 16-19 years old usually dont' work at 25+. Your personality and like/dislikes aren't developed enough to be committed and you'll grow apart. Unfortunately, it's time to break her heart.

 

Man I hope not.

 

You really need to move on bro...some things in life weren't meant to be and if they were then maybe someday you and your ex will eventually be back with each other. If not, then you can always reflect (not dwell) on the good times that the two of you had shared. Relationships are for those who are waiting around for something better to come along...use that to your advantage. I'm not saying that you should go out and hump every leg that comes your way, but there are many other interesting women out there waiting for the right guy to come into their lives...The whole "other fish in the sea" saying is cliche, but I have found that it rings true. I don't mean to get all high and mighty by saying this because I still think about my exes from time to time...but seriously the current girl you're with will transition you to getting over your ex...have all the fun you can with her and maybe you'll find that you're falling for her...

move on...